Baby number 2 is terrifying me

[HarleyK]

I'm currently pregnant with my second baby (very early days) and after a perfect first pregnancy and birth, I have suddenly become convinced that I'm going to miscarry. Every ache and twinge is making me expect the worst and it's driving me mad. Has anyone had the same problem? And if so how did you deal with it?

[cupcake78]

Coming from someone who been through A few mc's It's really hard isn't it. I think reassurance is your best friend! The thing is I'm sure your going to be fine but take each day as it comes, do things you enjoy and try to think of that day only not the future. Treat yourself, plan nice things todo.

You already know this but what will be will be (most likely a very healthy baby). A lot of this may be hormonal which can create all sorts of stories in your head.

[TheDuckSaysMoo]

I hated my pregnancy with dd as I was constantly in fear of something going wrong (needlessly, thankfully). I think I just knew so much more about what could in wrong and I had been blissfully unaware first time.

I just dealt with it one day at a time and resisted the urge to ask for extra scans. Once the kicking started I found it a bit easier as there was a regular sign of life.

Good luck

[EthelredOnAGoodDay]

Yeah feel same really. Had an MMC in feb, but I have had 12 week scan and all ok?! Am now slightly stressing that I haven't really felt any movements and am nearly 16 weeks. Being ridiculous.

[HarleyK]

I do try and talk to my other half about how worried I am but I feel as if going on about will instil the same worry in him and that's the last thing I need. I think most of my worry is caused from the fact that I only had my first baby 4 months ago and am constantly being told that it's damaging to both me and my baby to be pregnant so soon. We wanted a small age gap between children (obviously wasn't expecting to get caught the first month of trying) so that they'll always be close but now I feel like I'm condemned to worry because other people don't approve

[AlisonDB]

Harleyk, i have not had a mc, but i was the 1st of all my friends/peers to become preg, with DS1 who is now 5, i think looking back i was very ignorant to problems in preg, i just assumed if you where to mc you would know it there and then i'd never heard of a mmc,
This time round has been SO different!! Im 29 weeks now but in the early stages i was paranoid!!!!!! Every twinge i felt terrified me, i demanded an early scsn just to see if there was something there, i think my mw thinks im a nutter as i was looking into everything, the fact i was sick/not sick/tired/not tired i was taking as a sign of something sinister,
thankfully it was not, and i am better now as i can feel him moving wriggling and kicking, but i must say if i dont feel him for a while i will go and lie down play music and prod and poke till the poor little bugger kicks me back!!

As fof their only being a very small age gap, i have a friend of mine who got preg with baby 2, just 3 months after 1st birth, im not aware that anyone told her it was dangerous to be pregnant so soon after preg 1.

Enjoy, try to relax and not get stressed or worried (easier said than done)
X

[imustbepatient]

There is only a year between my DH and his DB, no health problems for my MIL or her sons, am sure you will be absolutely fine too, just take things easy and try not to worry too much (easier said than done I know!)