Hello
I guess I am hoping to be told, we'll be ok and all will be fine.
I have three lovely children and I talked DH out of getting a vasectomy as I did not feel ready but he was insistent - NO MORE! I was happy with three. I still am. But there is a little part of me that does crave another.
Last month we had sex three times but he withdrew (his old trick). I noticed after it was around the middle of my cycle. This was not planned but nature made it happen as I wanted to have sex. So I must have been ovulating. Anyway I am now a few days late which I have been many times in the past. But last week I have been moody as hell, the worse PMT I've ever had. I feel very bloated and look pregnant and I feel like my period is about to start. I've also had lots of different pains too. So there is a chance I am pregnant and I have to say I would be very happy but my DH will be so upset. He will probably think I planned it and I honestly did not. I know he will be really down about it and stress for weeks but would get over it. The main concern would be money like in most situations. This is irresponsible of us I know.
What will it mean having four, I found three children easier than going from one to two, will three to four be just as easy? My older two are very good at helping and so its not like I'll have four little ones. But everything else, I know my family will be shocked and people will probably disapprove.
Did you have people around be negative when you had your fourth, was your birth easier, did your body cope ok, what were you like after?
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Maybe pregnant with number four - what will it be like?
Lovebumps · 01/02/2012 21:46
Hello :)
I am 16w with number 4. I felt very complete with my 3 DCs, husband also very happy with 3 and didn't feel we needed number 4. We didn't try very hard for this baby, and I have to say I was super, super shocked when I found out I was pregnant. I spent the first few weeks wondering what the hell I had done.
Like you, I found going from 1 to 2 children much harder than I did from 2 to 3, and I know several people with 4 children who are so well established into routine and family life, that another child didn't make that much difference.
I have to say that your husband, as upset as he may be if you are pregnant, has to take responsibility. Withdrawal isn't contraception, and if he really didn't want you to fall pregnant then he should have put a condom on. When I say that we didn't try hard to get pregnant, we didn't use contraception so it should hardly be a shock to find out I was pregnant!
The only way you can properly deal with this is to do a pregnancy test. If you aren't pregnant and feel really disappointed, then you need to talk to your husband about feeling like that. If you are pregnant, you will be fine. I had a few negative reactions from family but we are financially OK (well, as OK as we can be), we don't rely on anyone else to look after our children and how we chose to live our lives is up to us, not anyone else.
Let me know what happens, meanwhile have a lovely cuppa 
Suzy x
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