I'd like to hear other people's thoughts on this. I'll be fourteen weeks pregnant in my first pregnancy tomorrow, and no one knows yet, apart from my partner, doctor and midwife, and my head of department (needed time off for scan, and because of what I do for a living, major rejigging will be needed to arrange my maternity leave).
I didn't want to tell anyone at first, because I didn't want sympathy if I miscarried (some other unrelated medical issues were discovered in the pregnancy tests), and I didn't want to worry my (very anxious and very Catholic, and with no previous grandchildren) parents until I had the result from the Combined Test (I am 39). Now I'm starting to want to announce it, in part simply because I'd like to be able to talk about it with friends who've had children, and to be able to throw up in peace (plus I'm starting to show).
However, I feel strongly we should tell family first, and my partner's parents are away on holiday for a fortnight, and it's likely to be almost another month before we can arrange to visit to tell them all (we live in different countries, but both sets of parents live in the same city, and I don't want to say something so important on the phone).
My question is - in your experience, does waiting this long to tell parents look in any way cold or rejecting? I have an awful feeling my mother in particular may be hurt at not knowing sooner. Any thoughts, or experiences of your own about at what stage you told immediate family, would be most welcome.
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When did you tell friends and family you were pregnant?
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HardCheese · 18/09/2011 08:40
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