Just wanted to ask some opinions. We live a 2-3 hour drive away from DH's relatives. He's not that bothered about most of them, they aren't close, but his nan raised him after his mum died, and they have a very close relationship. They chat for ages on the phone once a week etc.
His nan is lovely, been very welcoming to me, loves our DS1 to bits and we all regret that we aren't able to visit more than a few times a year. Nan is housebound and not very mobile, so she can't come and see us, particularly as we live in an upstairs flat.
When this baby is born (any day now!) my DH wants to take him down for a visit as soon as possible. With DS1, we waited until he was eight weeks, this time, DH would like to go sooner. We spoke about it yesterday and I said I would like to wait until the lochia stops, just because I really don't want to be traipsing round someone else's house changing sanitary towels etc and having to put them in the kitchen bin. It was pretty heavy after I had DS1 and although I know I shouldn't be embarrassed, I kind of am.
We will also have to sleep on an airbed on the floor, which doesn't fill me with joy if I am bleeding on someone else's sheets and getting up 60,000 times a night to breastfeed. Luckily, his nan is VERY pro breastfeeding and so I don't have any qualms about feeding in front of her, she's brilliant like that, even got me drinks because she remembered how thirsty you get when feeding!
My bleeding stopped at 6 weeks last time, but DH wants to go earlier than that.
Can anyone think of any solutions, maybe a way to hide all the sanitary towels and dispose of them discretely? I don't want to upset my DH unnecessarily and I feel bad that he is separated so much from his nan, who isn't in the best of health and may not have many years left.
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I feel really bad, but I don't think this is a good idea.
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SoBroken · 05/09/2011 12:09
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