Long Post Disclaimer!!!
To give you some back ground I'm 21 this is my first baby and there is a heart condition that runs in my family - so in all fairness I'm not the most natural candidate for a homebirth. For complicated reasons they can't say defnitely yay or nay if I have this heart condition but I've never had an 'episode' (which basically involves dropping down dead) and it sometimes flares up in other people in late pregnancy/labour/early post partum, there's nothing they can do about this except monitor with ecgs.
There's a few reasons I've started to want a homebirth, firstly I ended up on labour ward last week when a water infection irritated my uterus and I HATED it, they were all ok the midwives I just fiercely wanted to be at home felt miserable, also my partner has a phobia of hospitals that I'd really under estimated, when we were there he sat in the corner a kind of off greenish colour and could barely talk to me - he is an amazing loving partner who desperately wants to be part of the birth experience and I would hate to have anyone else as a birth partner but really need more support than that! and finally we live 5 minutes from the hospital so wouldn't be a huge palaver to go if I had to...
So that's why I want a home birth and this is what the doc said - that first time mums never managed it without help and that I was being selfish to the midwife who would be looking after me because there might be complications and selfish to other healthy mothers who want it because if me or my baby died then the newspapers would print it and the homebirth team would be stopped or it would put other people off. :( felt like crying! That any midwife would be seriously pissed off to have to deliver my baby after reading my notes..
I left really wanting to cry! Is he right, am I being a prat?
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Just got pretty much shouted at for asking about a home birth.... :(
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GeneralDisarray · 09/08/2011 15:03
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