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just want to keep it secret longer

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Nanny01 Mon 27-Jun-11 19:42:09

This is no.5 and when I found out I was pregnant wanted to tell every one. However dh made me promise not to as last time parents found out through other sourcres. He wants to tell the relatives while we are holiday in a months time when I will be 16 weeks. I am now thinking that I have gained no weight yet and I am heavier any way that we could leave it later. I really have turned tale on all of this as my parents and his mother have never been great about us having one child let alone 5. I really love the fact that I don't have to justify myself to them and the condemnation as if it was any of their business. Dh and I are only children so our parents really never wanted any more. What would you do in my position. I would love to tell my close friends but can't risk telling them and it getting back to the parents. They use language like disapointed, betrayed, disgusted. Reallt torn I know I jave to tell them but I could easily get away with it till 20 weeks.

Flisspaps Mon 27-Jun-11 19:43:41

If they're going to be funny about it, tell them on the last day of the holiday (as you're packing/boarding/driving home) and then they can't spoil the holiday but it gets telling them all over and done with in one go?

GwendolineMaryLacey Mon 27-Jun-11 19:52:28

If they are as nasty and anti as you say then I would tell your friends, let it get back to your families and sod them. Why keep a secret from your friends for the sake of horrible people? smile

Nanny01 Mon 27-Jun-11 19:54:27

Not taking mobile phone so dh says send them a letter on the day we go away and then they can fume about it all week. Not sure if a week will be enough for them.
Whats the latest was one has told?

OnlyWantsOne Mon 27-Jun-11 19:56:24

I was 19 weeks PG with DD1

Dp didn't tell his mum til I was 17 weeks with dd2

Nanny01 Mon 27-Jun-11 19:57:14

Thanks I got so much rubbish as last time I did that. I do wonder if thye won't be happy however they find out. I am telling a few close friends ie best mate and ds's child minder who has picked him up when I have had doctors appointments. Just don't know how or what to say to them.

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