I know my midwife is very busy and we only have 5 minute appointments. Since our local maternity ward closed all the women have been sent to another one in our area which means it is over crowed, staff are rushed off their feet and they simply don't have time to be in two places at once. I think the midwifes do a brilliant job and make the best of a bad situation but it does lead to rushed appointments, mistakes on notes and I generally feel that my thoughts and feelings are brushed aside.
I am 40 weeks pregnant and have an appointment this afternoon with my midwife, I have only seen her twice during my pregnancy and never seen any other midwife more than once, there is no continuity of care and information gets lost between appointments.
Early on in my antenatal care I explained to my midwife that if I went over 40 weeks pregnant (which I fully expected to as previous DCs were induced due to being late) then I would only have specific dates that induction can happen due to childcare. I am able to arrange childcare up until the 17th June which would make me 40+8 but after that I am basically screwed as I will have no one to take care of my DC should I go into labour naturally or medically. I am including neighbours and distant friends in this, we have new neighbours both sides that I don't know. The midwife at the time said this wouldn't be a problem as she was sure that something could be arranged and I would possibly be induced at 41 weeks.
The NICE guidelines state that induction should be between 41+0 and 42+0 and the dates I have child care fits into this. It also says that the mothers home circumstances and social issues should be taken into account.
I asked the midwife at my 38 week appointment if I would be given a sweep at my 40 week appointment (this afternoon) and she said no, and that it was normal to gie a sweep at 41 weeks - which is correct, but I could really do with being given a bit of help before then. I plan on asking her again today and also to try and arrange my induction date, partly for my own peace of mind and partly due to my childcare issues.
Recently, I have know a few people within my area and with the same midwife that have been given induction dates at 17/18 days over due - mainly due to the staff shortages and having no beds at the hospital. I want to avoid this if possible. I am not sleeping well because of the worry and have had anxiety issues in the past, including counselling and being signed off work for a few months. I have done so well to get past these and am very nervous about ending up with the severe PND I had after the birth of my last DC.
How can I make the midwife understand, given the lack of time I have and the fact that she doesn't know me or my history?
I do realise that the hospital are so busy - to busy infact to have given me an appointment with a consultant that I should have had months ago.
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PrisonerZero · 09/06/2011 12:38
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