I had a 3rd degree tear with DS. Healed well and I am 21 weeks pregnant.
Had an appointment with the consultant today to discuss this birth. Basically they are leaving it up to me whether I want a c section or not. If I want it, they won't question it at all.
She said if I hadn't healed as well as I have, they would recommend a c section but as I have healed well, it is up to me whether I want a natural birth.
I have to weigh up the risks of a c section or the risk of incontinence. Just because I tore last time, doesn't mean I will again. Chances are the same as any other pregnant woman. They will do an episotomy, even though she said there is no evidence to prove that it helps. I had one last time and still tore so I don't see the benefits tbh.
I had an epidural and forceps. This time I was thinking of not having an epidural but I don't know what really strong contractions feel like as I had it pretty early. I had it as I have M.E./CFS and it was recommended by the consultant. I would like to get in the birthing pool but as there is only 1 at the hospital, chances are this won't happen. Anyone know if you are allowed a bath there?
I had a 3rd degree tear with DD, and then went on to have DS3 vaginally. I did tear with him, but only a 2nd degree tear and tbh i didn't even notice it - nowhere near as painful as the 3rd degree tear.
I think i have some research put away in one of my files for chances of tearing badky again - i'll have a look to see if i can find it for you, but basicly it says if you can identify why you tore so badly last time you can take precautions to avoid it the next.
I know i tore badly because i was flat on my back strapped to a monitor and dd was back to back.
I was on my back due to an epidural. DS heartrate dropped and had to be born quickly so they done an episiotomy and I had forceps then tore. DS was 8lbs 11oz (and 10 days early) but the registrar did say that the size of the baby wouldn't have an effect.
I had a nasty 3rd degree tear with DS1 .. after a long labour, epidural, and turning forceps in theatre. I healed well. With DD1 had qucik labour,mostly at home, with lots of moving about ... tore again, but only minor tear ( she ended upcoming too fast) and healed again.Hospital had told me to give it a go second time round and I didn't push for a section - the right choice in my case.
1st 3rd degree tear healed well 2nd back to back episio and 3rd degree tear. tear healed well episio caused me problems 3rd epsio and apparent small tear, much more problems than with 3rd degree tear. I keep sressing I don't want episios but they just keep giving them to me.
My sister has had 4 kids and her was 1st 3rd degree tear second 2nd degree tear third nothing 4th 3rd degree tear. She had a long conversation with the midwife after her last who said she birthed the baby slowley and there would have been nothing she could have done to avoid it. Her tears have also healed well.
I would say that as you had intervention that that would have had an affect on your tear. Your second birth may be absolutely fine. I think a lot of it is about how well it has healed some people have dreadfull problems with tears. hth
I have 2 different friends who had this, both went on to have a natural birht. One by choice, one went into labour in the middle of the night 10 days early (3 days before elective section) adn decided ot just go for it. Both were fine and really pleased they did it.
i had 3rd degree tear too and after 52 hours labour it was totally exausting i am due my 2nd daughter in 13 days and have opted for a section. for me i think it is the best option as healing last time took soooooo long. you must choose what is right for you you do not get any medals for doing it the hard way!!
I had a third degree tear with DC1 following an epidural, episiotomy and ventouse. All healed well and decided to go for a natural, midwife-led birth with DC2. She was back-to-back but the labour was much faster and I stuck to gas and air. A far, far more positive experience. I did tear a bit (2nd degree) but was very happy with the way it went.
I wouldn't have thought about getting a medal for "doing it the hard way"
Its not the hard way, its the natural way anyway, the way that most women give birth.
I was thinking of saying I don't want an episiotomy, especially after the registrar was saying about there being no evidence of them actually having an effect and I have read this myself recently too. Don't know why they are saying they would automatically do one if there is no proof of it helping. In fact, if women tear as well, surely that is proof that it makes no difference?
I should add i also had an episiotomy, and had a emergency delivery at home as dd came so quickly and she was coming out head facing the wrong way, and her heart stopped for a bit because the cord was round her neck.
But i had no such dramas with the others, aside from precipitous labours and home births lol
I had a third degree tear with DS2 17 months ago and am now 32 weeks pg with twins. Am hoping to deliver both naturally. Consultant very encouraging about prospects of this and said that most women who have third degree tears can and do deliver vaginally again with less trauma. Am hoping he is right!
i had 2nd deg tear with first baby, 3rd deg tear on second baby who was only born 10months ago. am not yet ready for another baby and thats probably because i'm terrified of how it will be born. i fear i'll follow the trend and have a 4th deg on next birth, but am equally terrified of a c-section!! any words of wisdom?