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Potty training

Should I persevere?

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Greenknees · 01/02/2021 08:53

DD will be 3 in March. She is very articulate (for her age!) and seems to love the idea of potty training and big girl pants. I drew her up a sticker reward chart and talked to her about it in the few days before I started potty training. She clearly understood and was excited- told everyone she knew about it Grin

The day came and she put on some pants. In the space of an hour she had wet herself twice. I decided she wasn’t ready (this was back in the October half term) and tried again at Christmas- same thing happened. Tried again a couple of weeks ago - she did 5 wees on her potty and STILL wet herself 20 minutes later.

In between training attempts she has a potty available and sometimes announces she wants to use it (sometimes producing something sometimes not). We always make a big fuss when she does it and she likes to call everyone in the house to come and inspect what she has done. She announces when she’s doing a poo and I ask her if she would like to do it in her potty but she says that she’d rather do it in her nappy.

Is she just not ready? Or should I give it a couple of days rather than give up after she sets herself?

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Greenknees · 01/02/2021 16:06

Anyone?

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Pinkiii · 01/02/2021 16:11

I would say 3 is definitely a good age, especially if she understands and she can communicate.

They won’t get it perfect every single time in the first few times, there is bound to be accidents.

What we did with my dd was the first few days had her undressed from the bottom, the first few times she had an accident she realised she didnt like the feeling and would to her potty, day 3 she got the hang of it ( we have some minor regressions but quickly bounces back),

maybe you can try that for a couple of days
and then introduce underwear?

i would definitely persist more than a few days, esp with the chart.

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WalkingOnStarshine · 01/02/2021 20:45

I agree with pp - go without pants or bottoms for a few days. DS would realise instantly that he was weeing and after a few accidents he figured it out and started running to his potty.

After a few days he started to recognise the feeling of needing a wee and would get to the potty in time, then once I felt he understood we went for loose bottoms before eventually putting him in pants. I think wearing something fitting like pants feels too much like a nappy and they get confused.

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Greenknees · 02/02/2021 13:56

Thanks for the advice. I hadn’t thought about leaving her pant less but I think you are right - it’s that she doesn’t quite get when she needs to wee. I’m a bit concerned about my poor couch and carpets but I guess this is all part of parenting!

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ValpolicellaPrimitivo · 02/02/2021 14:00

We followed the Oh Crap method which is start out naked from the waist down. After a couple of days DS was using the potty without prompting with no accidents, then moved onto trousers but no pants, this was the trickiest stage for us as he started having accidents again. Then after a week or so put pants on too.

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ValpolicellaPrimitivo · 02/02/2021 14:01

We also put bed mats on the sofas with a cheap throw over the top.

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MaMaD1990 · 02/02/2021 14:12

Little accidents are bound to happen, its a skill that needs to be practiced if she's excited, run with it but just be there with some wipes, gentle reminder about using the potty and some pads for the soft furnishings!

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Willow4987 · 02/02/2021 14:18

We also did the oh crap method as well. The author suggests no pants until they understand each stage as it can be similar to the feeling of a nappy so get confused and have more accidents

We did naked from the waist down and then trousers once he’d mastered stage 1

Pants came along after a few weeks when he 100% knew what was happening

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minnie465 · 02/02/2021 14:24

Another vote for he oh crap method. Bare bum first few days then just tracksuit bottoms with no pants underneath
for a while. He only wet them once GrinNever looked back. Makes sense when you think about it...pants feel just like a nappy to them and they don't seem to mind wet pants

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WalkingOnStarshine · 02/02/2021 15:40

I read something somewhere once about wee being sterile, and whether this is true or not it made me feel a bit better about the inevitable accidents. I got a nice smelling spray cleaner and a cloth and kept them to hand, and put some old towels down on the sofa. It wasn't as much of an issue as I expected it to be.

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Greenknees · 02/02/2021 16:53

Thanks everyone! With half term coming up this weekend. I'll give it a proper go then - I want her to go for a good few days of no accidents before i hand her over to her childminder.

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Greenknees · 02/02/2021 16:54

and by weekend I meant month (of course)

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