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Is my daughter ready what day did it click(13 Posts)
So my daughter is showing all the signs
Shes dry after naps
She goes around 2 hours or longer between weeing
She hides when going for a poo
She communicates that she's been
Shes knows when she's going
So we started her properly yesterday with plan to stay in the house Saturday Sunday and Monday to get it started. But we've had no success yet despite all the other signs it hasn't clicked that feeling of I need to go the toilet and so she's just having accidents.
I'm not sure whether to carry on with theory that it'll click or leave it. How long did it take your children to realise that feeling.
I worked mornings only when my kids were little. They went to a workplace nursery in the mornings. On their second birthday the staff would ask me to bring pants in the next day for toilet training. They did this with all the kids there as they turned 2. It seemed quite regimented and I wasn't sure about it, but it seemed to work. When I picked them up at lunch time, they told me to have a potty around all the time and keep putting them on it every so often through the afternoon. I don't know if it is because they saw other kids using the potty, but it seemed to be very easy and I had no problems with this method. I kept them in nappies at night for a while. However, I forgot to put a nappy on my daughter at night and she was fine so I just continued. If they had been at home I probably wouldn't have started trying for a few more months.
When they're ready they get it quickly in my experience.
Keep asking her if she needs a wee. Keep sitting her on the potty. Keep the potty close by and if she starts having an accident try and get her on the potty, even if you only catch the last bit. Make a huge amount of praise if she gets some in the potty. She'll soon see what she's meant to do.
If you get nowhere and she genuinely has no control or doesn't recognise the feeling then wait a month or two and try again.
How long would you say I keep trying her for before concluding she's not ready.
She appears to totally understand as when I say where do we do wees she either points at her toilet or says toilet it just seems that whole part of getting the urge is getting missed out at the moment.
DD1 got it within three hours. DD2 didn’t have any wee accidents after the first day.
Are you sure your child is ready?
She might understand but might not have the muscle control yet.
With mine I didn't carry it on for days, I just took their nappy off and waited to see what happened. If they weed all over the place then I knew they weren't ready. I then just kept trying this every month or so. The sign they had control was when they walked round nappy-less for quite a while without weeing, then asked for their nappy back on (because they needed a wee.) I knew then that they recognised the sign and had the control to hold it.
At this point I just said no to the nappy and kept sitting them on and showing them the potty. We'd eventually get some in the potty when they couldn't hold it anymore. Lots of praise, a bit of chocolate and a big goodbye to the wee down the toilet, and that was pretty much it.
My first was physically very ready. She was waking up dry in the mornings although wasn’t showing much interest in potty training. Even when we went for it I remember it being 5 days before she got the hang of it, so I’d carry on a bit longer if you can. My second I wasn’t so convinced was ready, but again it took 4 or 5 days. Both of them were a few months under 3, so it wasn’t particularly early.
Thanks everyone I think we're going to see how tomorrow goes and see how we feel she is doing she doesn't wee everywhere as she has a really strong bladder it seems going at least 2 an half hours between each wee and she's drinking plenty. It seems frustrating I guess that she is ready in every other way just not the whole 'I need to wee' signal reading. I've read alot of children make progress on day 3 so we shall see what tomorrow brings and maybe leave it a month or two and come back to it if we're not progressing
Update day 3 the day I've read is a turning point.
She woke up with a dry nappy,
First wee she started then stopped till we reached potty, second she ran to toilet (tho didn't pull knickers down dh had to act quick doing that) an did her first wee no prompting, 3rd she sat on toilet but got up after 2 minutes I walked away and she had had accident 🤦🏻♀️ so I think she felt she needed it but then wasn't sure as it didn't come as fast as expected orr just coincidence.
1st poo she hid I placed her on potty she did say no and panicked a bit but when she got up she had been.
So huge progress today imo.
Thoughts at this point?
Sounds really positive I would keep going!
Poos can be scary for them on the toilet/potty so if she managed that already then that's great.
Sounds like she's got some good bladder control too if she's going 2.5 hours between wees and managing to stop herself too. It's if they haven't got the muscle control then they're not ready.
She's bound to have the odd near miss or misjudgement but it sounds like she's doing great. I bet in a day or two she will have pretty much cracked it!
I think that sounds promising, well done to all of you! There’s a lot involved for them getting used to the idea of recognising the urge, getting to the loo and then trying to let it go when they’d rather be getting back to playing. Pooing can be a whole different issue, so I wouldn’t worry at all if that seems to be taking longer at the moment.
If she wakes up dry then you know she must be ready to have a wee then. So if possible sit with her while she’s on the potty for as long as it takes (putting her feet in a bowl of warm water can help) so she can get used to how it all feels.
First child was sorted on day 1! Second took about 4 days to stop having accidents regularly, then about 10 days to be (almost) 100% reliable with warnings that she needs the loo and time to get there! Sounds like yours is more like my second! I had a travel potty with a lid in the car and sat her on incontinence sheets in the car/buggy/sofa in the early days. A sweetie after a successful trip to the loo worked a treat for my second as she just wasn’t that bothered about accidents at first! Good luck!
Just to keep you updated we're on our 5th full day Tuesday wasn't a good day ill be honest (excluding the fact she had mastered poos by Tuesday which is amazing) Wednesday was better but today has been a different ball game she's took herself the toilet (mini toilet) every time so far 🤞 for a accident free day. Obviously I don't want to get carried away as we all know tomorrow could be different.. But I'm so proud its clicking for her now properly.
We do have another hurdle though she's currently scared of toilets with and without toilet seats and isn't a fan of her portable potty so we are going to work on that with her I'm guessing bribery is going to have to come into play with this.
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