My 4.5 yr old daughter has been toilet trained for a year and a half, and wiping herself independently for months. Suddenly she’s being really stubborn; she’ll be adamant that she doesn’t need to go, and then have an accident. She’ll deny point blank needing a wee, even when she’s holding herself and dancing around the room.
She might get to the toilet, but then stand next to it and wee or poo in her knickers.
If she does decide to use the toilet properly, she’ll refuse to wipe herself, and shout/cry/tantrum for us to do it. We wait this out, and leave her as long as it takes (periodically checking), until she calms down and does it herself.
It seems purely behavioural, no physical issues.
Nothing had changed at home, no life changes at all, nothing to explain this sudden change of direction. She’s just decided to plant her flag on this hill, and isn’t giving up any time soon.
I try desperately to remain calm, but after asking her repeatedly and getting “no, no, no” back, and then having to clean up poo for the third time that day, I start to lose my temper and then immediately feel horrible.
HOW do I solve this?! Has anyone done it?!
Tried a sticker chart, she doesn’t care enough to do it. Tried rewards, they don’t motivate her enough. Tried getting nursery involved to have a stern word, and it didn’t help. Please wise mothers... I’m desperate!
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Fallowfield · 19/02/2020 20:26
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