Advice please for 2.5 year old

[stuffingball]

Hi all, I would like some advice please for my 2.5 year old dd.
We attempted to start potty training and got a nice new potty, sticker chart etc but she's really not taken to it and didn't like to use it. In my head that means she's not yet ready, but I'm not sure because she's my first.

All my family and DHs family think we are being lazy anyway because she should be potty trained by now. (Eg my dad always saying to dd why aren't you using the potty yet? You can't have that (eg pudding) until you use the potty in this house 🙄). So I get no advice or support from them whatsoever.

Anything I've read on here before always says to wait until they are ready, but what if she's never going to be ready and finds it easier to keep her nappy? Where do I start?

[Selfsettling3]

Read the oh crap book.

[Whynosnowyet]

Dd was easier than ds's
Shopping for new pants was the start!!
Timing is everything - if she likes TV its a doddle!! Ds knew he had to at least sit and try before lunch /tea /Paw patrol /going out / more TV!!
Dd was dry before 2 but youngest ds was 2.10. Took 3 days as waited until he was keen to try. Pointless if they show no interest or it could take months. Why make its stressy?
No harm trying a bit bm ime!!
Or just wait. No rules. Tell family to stfu. Your dd, your timing not theirs.

[OnlyFoolsnMothers]

Read Oh crap....bloody brilliant!

[MissPepper8]

Yeah I'm under same roof, DS is 2.6 and baby due in March. My grandparents keep saying "I did it in x time" constantly asking why isn't he trained (his two boy cousins didn't use potty until after 3).

My mum not so bad, she says she trained us after we were 2 but never pushes it, it's just my grandmother's going on that it needs to be done now.

I've tried stickers he doesn't seem to get pee/poo on potty equals reward yet. He's just asking for a reward as he's sat on the potty so it's best not to show him stickers at all as he gets upset he can't have them.

Tried it yesterday and now he refuses to go on today and crys about stickers. He's quite quick learning stuff and telling us he's pooed but it seems to be rubbing him up the wrong way when I show him potty now (he shouts no potty at me :( ).

If she isn't ready then leave her a few more months, ignore your family because if you push it you might do more harm than good (like I'm afraid we have) x