Different methods for different kids???

[gigi556]

Been potty training a month tomorrow. When we started there were lots of dribbles and his first day at nursery (actually just a morning) resulted in 6-7 accidents. A month on, he goes several hours without needing a wee (this morning was about 4 hours and same in the afternoon). He occasionally self initiates but either doesn’t wee or only a little wee comes out. Same when we put him on. I’m not overly worried about poos as I think that will come. He’s done about 2 poos on his own and 3 half poos in the potty (over the last month). He tends to hold it when we go out (won’t use toilets when out) so very few public accidents. He says pee pee and poo poo and points to both when in potty or on the floor. Anyway, it’s like he gets it kind of but not quite. We’ve been doing the O Crap Method. He’s quite young so was expecting to take quite a bit of time but I’m wondering if he might respond better (or more quickly) to rewards like chocolate buttons! I guess it makes sense that different methods work for different kids but I wondered if anyone had specific experience of this. I really thought I didn’t want to use rewards but I’m seriously thinking of trying it now.

[onlyoneoftheregimentinstep]

You don't say how old he is? It sounds to me as if he isn't ready. There really isn't any point in starting early and expecting it to take a while - just a recipe for stress all round. If you wait till he's ready it should happen in a matter of days.

[NoKnit]

I think 7 accidents in a morning together with only occasionally self initiating plus only 2 poos in potty/toilet I'm a month is a sign of not fully having control and not being ready. You say he's young, is he your first and do you have any reason for needing him trained? I would personally go back to nappies and try again in a few months.

With my oldest I started way too early because I was convinced that by 2.5 he should be out of nappies. It took over 2 years for him to train.

My youngest is 3 in April and I only decided to give it a go this week and so far he's doing great only about 1 accident a day and he self initiates all the time. It is completely different to my first and maybe I'm just more relaxed about it but it's working better. What you describe sounds a lot like what I had with my oldest.

I know it's easy for me to say go back to nappies and wait, you have to really get to that stage for yourself but honestly I think that is the best thing to do.

However I'm no expert have only trained 2 kids one being a nightmare and the other a breeze. Maybe someone else can suggest something better.

[PMmehunx]

Mine was exactly like yours. Everybody told me to wait til she's ready and she would let me know, and to wait for now. I took the advice and it honestly worked. It has been so easy now! A month ago, she just told me during a nappy change that she needed a wee and her potty was nearby, so I reminded her it was there in case she wanted to use it and she just did it. Since then, we have had one accident because we took to long to get to the toilet and that's it. This is during the day only, still use nappies at night.
So honestly, take the advice that was given to me! Wait. He'll just do it when he's ready. You can keep talking about it, you can remind him about it, and when he's ready he'll do it and it'll be much easier on both of you.

[SpareASquare]

I've never had any issues with toilet training. I waited until they were ready and it was a breeze. They were all different ages from 18mths to 3 and a bit years.
I found that there was no 'training' necessary if you wait until they are truly ready. A few days and done.

[gigi556]

Ok. I thought I’d have quite a few people say he wasn’t ready but I was kind of wondering if people had thoughts on kids responding to different methods. He’s shown me he’s totally capable so I was going with that.

I’m not in the mindset to go back to nappies. I hate them. At this point I’d rather clean up accidents than change nappies.

[TrixieFranklin]

All of the other replies with bells on 🧻

[onlyoneoftheregimentinstep]

You may hate nappies OP but it's really unfair to your DS to expect him to do something of which he is clearly not developmentally ready - you're setting him up to fail. It's like saying you're tired of carrying him around and you'll just be expecting him to walk.

[gigi556]

@noknit the 7 accidents was a month ago. It’s only 1-2 now.

[Normandy144]

He doesn't sound ready. If this has been going on for a month and he is still having 1 or 2 accidents a day. Sorry if that is not what you want to hear. I've potty trained 2. First child tried twice and failed as she was having multiple accidents a day. Third attempt she cracked it by day 5 or 6. Second child major difference. She cracked it by day 3 and we have not looked back. She's been trained just under a month now and not had an accident in weeks. Don't stress, just wait a while.

[PMmehunx]

Honestly, I really would wait. There is no point in stressing yourself and him out with all this when it isn't something that's that important. That way, if you wait til he's ready, he won't be having accidents and it's less stressful for both of you.
I know changing nappies is tiresome sometimes, but it's got to be better than changing soggy clothes surely??
Sometimes, they're old enough to understand what they're supposed to do, they're old enough to understand what you're telling them, they're old enough to feel uncomfortable in the wet clothes, but they still just aren't ready yet. Just like walking, talking, sitting up etc, they just do it when they're ready and you can just sit back and let it happen, you don't even have to do any work, they just do it. Toilet training is the same, when they're ready, they just do it and that's it, you don't need to do anything other than show them how to wipe etc