Okay, so my 4.5yo DS was making it through the night dry around two thirds of the time about six months ago, with indications that he could hold on from at least six months before that with occasional dry nights (including times when he woke up dry and refused to wee in the morning just to see how long he could hold on for, like some kind of wee-holding competition, and made it for about 18 hours total). When he was wet in the morning six months ago it was pretty much down to laziness or 'forgetfulness' - i.e. he'd wake up, forget he wasn't wearing a nappy anymore, and lie there half awake and wee himself consciously, thinking he was wearing his favourite portable toilet. Then be like 'Mummy, I did a weewee, I forgot I wasn't wearing a nappy. Can I have a chocolate coin anyway? PLEASE?'
Anyway, he caught a cold sometime during the winter, and it seemed to be really diuretic. He'd do massive wees in the bed even by 10, 10:30, then frequently at unexpected hours in the night, and I was was going out of my mind with the laundry. We switched back to nappies to wait it out. And since then, it's been all downhill. He became even more lazy and even cheeky about it, and would wee in his nappy even before he got into bed, and say he 'forgot' to go the toilet with a grin (he is totally potty trained during the day, can even wipe his bum). And he just stopped bothering to try to remember not to do his big morning wee in the nappy. It's like he traded off the dry night chocolate coin incentive in his mind for the leisure of not having to worry about remembering not to wee in the bed. I asked him 'when do you want to stop wearing nappies at night?' and he said 'When I'm a grown-up' and cackled like a maniac. Over my dead body, kid.
To make things worse, we have really screwed up I think because we have been 'lifting' for quite a while at around 11pm, but we can't manage to wake him up properly anymore, and I suspect he's become psychologically accustomed again to weeing in his sleep. So it's like we reprogrammed him but in precisely the opposite way it was meant to.
But it's summer holidays now, and my DH is a teacher, so I'm thinking - he has the time to deal with the laundry, it's now or never! We've got four weeks to try again. I've put DS into 'Flip' training pants (officially not nappies but 'special pants'), we have loads of boosters, and DS knows it's game on now. Any practical tips? e.g. Yes, I know, wake him up when we take him to wee in the night, but HOW? Maybe make him do a standing up wee instead of a sitting down wee??
And yes, I know not weeing at night is a physiological/hormonal development milestone, and you can't push it to happen through 'training', but he was in fact ready six months or more ago, and the process started well over a year ago. I literally gave away an entire double carton box of nappies the day before he got that diuretic cold because I was so confident and pleased that my Big Boy was finally mostly dry in the night, and then I had to re-order them again.
What a fail.
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SnoozingCyborg · 03/08/2016 21:04
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