potty training a 2 year old..help!

[lizi311]

Hey all,
My daughter will be 2.5yrs at Christmas and so far potty training has been a huge farse...

She started off terrified of both the loo & potty, after months of coaxing I've finally cracked the fear of the potty but feel like I've come to a standstill.

She will sit on the potty but only if she feels like it. She insists on being completely naked and won't actually do anything on it.

I've tried explaining to her that she needs to tell me when she needs to go, I've tried cheering her on & even tried bribery. She's at nursery now & I'm desperate to crack potty training before she goes back after Xmas .
Has anyone else had a similar experience and cracked it? She is my 1st and only child.
Sorry for rambling

[MrsLeighHalfpenny]

*farce

I'd leave it to the nursery tbh.

[Wolfiefan]

What makes you think she's ready?

[LittleBearPad]

Let it go for a while until she's ready.

[PatrickPolarBear]

Why the rush? Is there a reason you want her to be trained at Christmas? Potty training is something you can't force, they are either ready or not. It doesn't sound like she is ready so just give it a break and try again in a couple of months.

[northerngoldilocks]

As others have said - give it up for a few months and wait for her to show an interest - will be easier for both of you! I have a 2.10m old who is perfectly capable of using a potty and has previously done whole days of being dry - but who currently refuses to wear big girl pants - so she doesn't . Will all be fine in the long run!

[LizKeen]

Just leave it. Seriously.

My DD turned 3 two weeks ago. We started potty training her two days later, because she was asking to do it. We had tried three times before and she did similar to your DD.

She had cracked it in the house in two days. There were two accidents and that was it. We are now slowly building up the time out of the house, and still put her in a nappy for long trips out, but mostly she is dry and needs to go when we get back. Tomorrow I am introducing the toilet.

It has been a breeze, and she actually wants to do it, which makes the whole thing far more relaxed.

Your DD isn't ready.

[lizi311]

Thanks guys, I've basically been trying to do it because a lot of friends have been saying that theirs were potty trained by 2 and I honestly felt like I was failing as a mum by letting my little girl stay in nappies. I understand that she may not be ready but from what ive heard/read I'm meant to be the one to teach her to understand when she needs to go

[spritefairy]

My DD is 2.8 and we are just starting to potty train but at her pace. She sat for the first time bare bum yesterday. We bought the potty 6 months ago. She was sitting on it fully clothed and with a nappy. Next step is to get her to have a wee. No rush, no hurry no pressure I.e please have a wee for mummy. If she has a wee lots of praise. If not oh well

[BearFeet]

Dd was 2.5
Ds was 3
They'll do it when they're ready. It's so much hassle if they're not. When they get it, it only takes a couple of days in my experience.

[AlphaOmicronPi]

Really, let her set the pace. Who care what anyone else is doing?

My kids were both over 2.5 when they potty trained and it was easy peasy. DD2 only ever had one accident and both were reliably dry in a weekend. If the child is ready, potty training is not usually stressful.

[AlphaOmicronPi]

And if it IS stressful, then they are not ready. I could understand you feeling that you needed to push the issue if your DD was 3.5 and school was looming. But it's not and you have plenty of time. It is not unusual for a 2.5 year old to be in nappies at all. Try again in a couple of weeks - that might make all the difference.

[SerenityReynolds]

DD is 3 in January and we are getting nowhere. She will not tell us when she needs the loo, denies it when she has had a poo etc. We just sit her on the toilet regularly, praise her loads if she actually does something and bought some potty training books to read with her. We are not pushing it beyond that.

I too feel a bit as most of her friends are out of nappies now but all the advice I have read/had has been that you cannot force it, and they will do it when they are ready, whether that is age 2 or 3.5

[ColdTeaAgain]

Agree with all the others, if she hasn't really shown an interest then it's two soon for her. Don't try and push or she'll get anxious about it.

Doesn't matter what your friends say, stages not ages! In my experience when some people say potty trained they actually mean their toddler is in pull ups all day and one or two wees might go in the potty, so take it all with a pinch of salt!

[ColdTeaAgain]

Serenity she will probably just decide to train herself one day when she realises what others are doing and want to do the same as her peers, don't worry

[Seeyounearertime]

Our DD is 2.6, she's trying bless her but I think it's more that we're putting her on the toilet at the right time more than she realises she needs to go.

I have no fer that shell learn, all kids learn eventually. Or at least you don't see that many adults wearing nappies because they've never learnt to use the toilet.

[martinkristen]

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