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nickeljrismybabesitter Fri 19-Dec-14 22:32:18

I can't frigging cope with it.

Three weeks ago (i think it was), she said she wanted to wear pants.
we gave her pants.
She was told she needs to tell us when she wants a wee. She said fine.
We asked her every <so often> if she needed a wee, we put her on the potty, we nicely asked her to sit on the potty and try for a wee.

the first few days it seemed to be going well. Wees on the potty, even a poo (oh yes!)
then it stopped progressing. Got quickly worse.

We were now at the stage where we would put her on the potty when she showed signs of needing a wee, and she would sit and then get off and wander round, pulling up her trousers. Then wee 5 minutes later.

She did it at home several times, she then did it at church last Sunday.
We persevered.
(no groups to go out to this week)
She has even started to refuse to eat chocolate because I tried to give her chocolate as a reward for doing a wee in the potty!

Yesterday, she weed in the charity shop (right next to a frigging potty they were selling!!!). I changed her.
She then weedi n the Post Office.
I changed her (no shoes but thankfully still had socks)
Then she weed in the music shop.

Within the space of an hour, she weed in THREE different shops - the PO I have to go in every day, and the music shop has a carpet ! (and I'm professionally aquainted with them, so I was mortified)

So, today she is back in nappies.
She flung off a nappy earlier after having weed in it, and she tells me when she's done a wee that her nappy needs to be changed, but absolutely no indication beforehand. All I get when I ask her to use the potty is "not yet, mummy!" and crying.

I don't know when I'll try again, but I just can't cope with it. It's ridiculous. She doesn't seem in the slightest bothered.

She's 3 (exactly - bday last Friday)

ArchangelGallic Fri 19-Dec-14 22:38:41

It's ok. If she's not ready, there's no point forcing the issue.
We tried potty training a couple of times with DD and on the 3rd attempt, she was still having numerous daily accidents at 3.4. It took a change from nursery to childminder to get it sussed outside home. I'm guessing she was 3 1/2 before I could go out confidently knowing she was unlikely to have an accident.

FayeFruitLoop Fri 19-Dec-14 22:47:12

It's still fairly early days at 3 weeks and quite normal for them to regress a little even once they've apparently mastered it

DS did it really early by 23 months but now 2.3 we are all of a sudden having accidents and even a very deliberate poo in his pants yesterday! ... But he has just started daycare and knows he will be going to nursery for full days after xmas. I think it's a mixture of the novelty wearing off combined with a little bit of anxiety about growing up and being more independent. He's also begun holding it if we're in a public loo... He can hop about in circles obviously bursting but will not go on his travel potty in a public place... He will wait until I finally pull his trousers up and then wee in them! hmm

For what it's worth... Amazon have some good sticker reward books and that worked for us, he was only allowed his book when he sat on the potty, always got a sticker for trying but got another special sticker if he produced, maybe she would go for something nice that only happens at potty time like that?

Fingers crossed for you wink

milkysmum Fri 19-Dec-14 22:51:34

Sounds pretty normal to me. My 3.3 year old is just starting to get potty training but to be honest I still put a nappy on him if we are out and about in town

nickeljrismybabesitter Sat 20-Dec-14 21:31:23

Thank you smile

I don't do amazon, but I have many possible resources of potty books/sticker books.
I thought the rewards would work, but as I say, she's refusing chocolates because o gave her one as a potty reward!

I think we will wait again.

Thing that's annoying, is she's back in her nappy and telling me each time she's done a wee!

ForTheLoveOfSocks Sat 20-Dec-14 21:44:32

My three year old still has accidents and wears nappies to bed. I do think there is far too much pressure to train by the age of two, most aren't ready.

She sounds like a typical toddler. Says one thing, means another and can do it whilst winding you up at the same time. Great little sods darlings fgrin

nickeljrismybabesitter Sat 20-Dec-14 23:54:53

But she is 3.
I deliberately left it until she said she was ready.

She just wanted to wear pants without putting any thought into what that meant shock

nickeljrismybabesitter Sat 20-Dec-14 23:56:04

Little sod is right.

Sod is now the state of every floor in my house.

And never stops talking

Piratejones Tue 23-Dec-14 18:39:54

Awe, they can be little sods.

She is only 3, I know right now this seems like a big important step which needs to be sorted, but trust me, it's not the end of the world.
Let her use nappies and try again in two - three months or so, when she wants to try.

ladyflower23 Mon 29-Dec-14 21:18:45

I am sharing your pain. my DS turned 3 last month and I started potty training on Xmas Day (santa brought him a potty and big boy pants). It takes me ages to convince him to sit on the potty, then he keeps trying to get up and then as soon as I give up and put his trousers back on he wees himself. He seems ready because he does the dance and holds himself so like he knows when he needs to go but nothing comes out when on the potty. We have not had even one success! I suggested giving up today and DH got annoyed with me for being impatient but seriously it has been 5 days with NO progression. I'm back to work on Fri and dh is looking after him so maybe he will change his mind after a day of cleaning up wees and poos!!!

nickeljrismybabesitter Mon 29-Dec-14 21:27:26

that's exactly what she does lady !

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