DS 3.9 poo issues - prefers standing and now soiling himself

[sisteroutlaw]

Sigh it's getting me down. DS has soiled himself 4 times this week and he turns 4 in June. He has been dry during the day since he turned 3 but he waits til his night time pull up to do a poo or asks for a pull up to do a poo. He knows when he needs to go but simply refuses to sit on the loo and push - he finds the best way to brace is standing! I've got a step stool for him to place his feet on and a seat with handles on the sides; we've suggested repeatedly he do it sitting with the pull up on but he won't do it.

And now the random soiling this week. I was understanding and upset for him the first time as it was at nursery and more miffed that no one had noticed and cleaned him up but these other times he's making the decision to let it out. I've told him sternly it's not what we do, pooing in our pants, that it is disgusting and there will be no tv if he just lets it out - too heavy handed?- he has had control this past year so am now baffled. Any tips
/ideas/hand-holding? Many thanks x

[HolidayCriminal]

Gawd, little kids are maddening.
Does he drink lots of fluids? Is it hard for him to go?

[sisteroutlaw]

Thanks for responding HolidayCriminal. The poos are usually soft and mushy but. you're right, he does get scared pushing out one he considers hard. He could do with drinking more fluids nonetheless.
Wondering what tack to take next as at least before he had a strategy for dealing with no2s - waiting til a pull up was on. Every day we suggested he try on the loo/potty. Really not sure what to do now it's a free for all.

[HolidayCriminal]

Could you bribe him, chocolate buttons for every poo IN the loo type of thing?

[sisteroutlaw]

Yeah I'm thinking bribery - star reward chart for SITTING on the loo regardless of output and a Lego toy as the goal for 5 done in loo/potty. Feel I'm feeding this issue by getting angry about it... I just don't want to normalise crapping his pants.

Your DCs trained Criminal?