Do I need to be more patient?

[tinypumpkin]

We finished day three of potty training DD2 today and don't seem to be getting anywhere. She is 2yrs and 8 months and this is our first attempt. I have all the stuff and talked to her about it all before hand. She was very keen then but does not seem to be keen now! Should we have seen some progress by now (just a little!) or do I need to be more patient?

I categorically don't expect her to be anywhere near trained by now but I did think she would start to want to use the potty more (for chocolate reward) but does not seem to really care. If anything, we did better for novelty value on day one!

I don't want to give up for now if she is going to get it but I don't want her to get stressed about it either. She was getting upset about not wanting to sit on the potty a good few times earlier. I know we could always try again later but I am just wondering if it is worth persevering for another day or so to see if there is any improvement at all.

Thanks for any words of wisdom.

[mumblecrumble]

May be easier to stop... and try again ina few months. Not a failure, just not ready...

Personally we used the toilet as she liked being like Mummy and Daddy. I took her every hour to the toilet and praised when she weed and poohed. We used pull ups for accidents and then used terry pullups which were horrible if she weed herself.

Gosh... it is amazing how much i can;t remember - hope this is of comfort too!!!

[Iggly]

We've just started training DS. Not sure if it's different for boys.

Anyway, we have a few potties and have taken him out of nappies so he gets used to feeling when he needs to go. Has meant a few accidents but he's very quickly got the idea and gets himself to the potty for a wee. This was without bribery. We didn't make a big deal - just said if he needs a wee or poo use the potty. I've stopped asking him all the time as he always says no (then will wee five mins later ). On occasion I'd ask him to sit down and have a try.

Any accidents, treat with minimal fuss. Just said next time on the potty.

Poos have been a bit harder. We've noticed when he wanted to go and encouraged him to sit on the potty. DH explained that they can take a while to come so sat with him and read stories to help him relax also offered a choc button too for every poo.

[tinypumpkin]

Thanks so much mumble crumble and iggly. I have decided to give it one more day and then leave it for a bit if no improvement. As you say mumble, maybe the time is just not right.

Iggly, your ds sounds like he is doing amazingly :)


I promise that I have been calm about accidents and have said each time that next time we try for the potty. DD does not like the toilet much so don't think it is worth trying that again. We did get some wees and poos in the potty but that was luck.

Thanks again for your kind replies. :)

[Iggly]

Maybe when you start again, on a nice day, let her run about with no pants on in the garden. Don't even mention the potty - just get her used to the feeling? Have a potty or three outside too?

We spent time before training telling him when he'd done a wee or a poo etc so he knew the feelings beforehand. still have accidents when he's distracted though!