Ok, so about 4 months ago, DS did a wee on the potty at nursery so we rushed out, bought potties for home, big boy pants and made a big fuss of him. He then put his teddies on the potty for one day, and after that ignored them for weeks. I didn't want to force the issue and turn it into a big thing so we put the potties away and decided to try again later. Only thing is, that later hasn't come as he doesn't seem to have any interest in them ? although he did do a wee again at nursery so potties out again which were totally ignored. I wasn't worried as feel like he will do it in his own time, but MiL is making some pretty stupid comments about it all. She lives 200 miles away (thank Christ), but the first thing she asks when she calls is: "is DGS `clean? yet?" I hate that description!. Also, when we last visited her she started on about it within 5 mins of being there. We changed the subject by telling her about DS' best friend at nursery (a girl) and she said "Huh, you can't have a girlfriend and still be in nappies". As usual, DH didn't say anything. I said that he'll do it in his own time but really took it to heart.
I'm rambling somewhat. We have now got DS in pull-ups full time (would only wear them at nursery previously) which is a bit of progress, but he still doesn't seem to be able to tell us when he's done a wee or poo or if he even wants to go. I know deep down that he isn't ready, but I feel like I should be pushing it now. Should I, or am I just sensitive to the comments. If I should be pushing it, any tips on how would be gratefully received. DS is my first so I'm not sure if I'm doing anything right?
Many thanks.
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DS 2.8 still not trained. Not sure he's ready and getting stick off MiL's comments....
BambinoBoo · 12/09/2011 08:59
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Thanks TheApprentice You know, the nursery is great and not fussing at all, it's just MiL. I am with you on not forcing as what is the point. My nephew was pretty much forced as a nursery wouldn't take him unless he was trained and he's now 5 and wets and poos himself. It's really sad.
You're right though. What can you do but wait. So glad that witch lives miles away 
Thanks again.
Agree with everybody else has said. One thing I would suggest tho I leaving the potty out. If your ds can't see it he won't think about it. With both my dc we wrapped the potty up and gave it them ad a present so they knew it was theirs. There was no pressure to use it (gave it to them on their 1st bday), but we left it in the living room by the fire. The both ignored it for about 6 months, but then started to play with it. DD was dry in the day at 2.4 & ds was 2.6 (I was very lucky), and I do think having the potty around daily helped with their familiarisation.
You sound as tho you have exactly the right attitude in that it will happen when your ds is ready. It will 
Many thanks PGTip It's funny as I put the potty away as didn't want it to become part of the furniture but maybe they should be. Good tip, thank you. I'll get them out again as you suggested. We have nothing to lose.
eaglewings I don't know why, but everytime my MiL slags off my parenting - and she manages it about once an hour on average - I can never think of a comeback until I'm seething on the car ride home. I only see her once every 6 months max now so I think that might be my coping method.
Bambino I also agree that you are doing the right thing by waiting, ther is no need to rush into it and anyway, once he is ready it will be so much less fuss and easier for you AND less stressful for him, than trying to push the issue before he is ready.
My DS is much younger than yours (21 months) and he is in cloth half the time (which I think might make a difference) but we did buy a potty about a month ago as he was having a wee on the bathroom floor every evening before his bath. We are NOT potty training him yet but when his nappy comes off before jumping in the bath, I ask if he wants to do a pee and put the potty under him. Mostly he pushes out a little wee (WILL not sit in it, but holds his penis like daddy 
) and I make a massive fuss of him. In the last week or so, he has occasionally bought me the potty when we are upstairs and then we have a go. It's a bit hit and miss, but I figure that we aren't really training him yet and he's still much in nappies full time so I'm not worried about it at all.
Do you think that just having the potty next to the loo and largely ignoring it might make him used to it?
DS1 was not potty trained until he was 3.1 and he just 'got' it straight away - no accidents, no need to let him run around with no pants on etc so I can only assume that he was ready and therefore picked it up without any problems (had previously shown little inclination to wee/poo on potty).
DS2 is now 2.10 and still in nappies (it is like deja vu 
). He is showing even less inclination to wee/poo on potty so god knows what age he will potty train. However, I am trying to be patient and wait as I know from my experience with DS1 that it is so much easier if you just wait until they are ready.
We do have potties in both bathrooms and he will sit on them at least once a week...but has yet to actually do anything in one!!!
Many thanks everyone. I guess I'll be getting the potties out again and we'll take it from there. Glad to hear that it's not unusal not to be trained at this age and I will continue to ignore the comments - through gritted teeth
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