Baby Blues advice

[AS94x]

Hi All,

I recently had my first baby on 4th October and I am so in love with him, but I can’t help but cry at random times of the day or feel sad whenever I think about not being pregnant, looking at bump photos or the labour.
I’m so confused as I miss being pregnant and feeling him move inside me etc. but I love having him here. I feel like time has gone too fast and it makes me sad. I feel horrible for not being as super excited as I thought I would have been 🙁
How long did it take you all to get over baby blues or do you have any tips to stop me from feeling like this?

[TwittleBee]

Hi AS94x
Firstly, it's great you're reaching out and you aren't alone in feeling like this! I know exactly what you mean. Don't feel bad for missing pregnancy as it was such a special time and it does all seem to go so fast.
Secondly, is there anyone with you at home you can open up to? Just talking your feelings through with another person, even if that's your Hv, can really help.
Take care of yourself hub. Sensing you such much love. Xx

[AS94x]

Hi!
I live with my fiancé and he has been amazing in talking to me about my feelings but sometimes I feel he doesn’t fully understand how I feel even though he really is trying to. I think it’s because I had such an easy pregnancy and I loved it but I never thought I would feel sad or cry once he arrived, so I’m totally confused if it’s normal or not. I’m glad it sounds like it is - hoping it passes soon! X

[Nic165]

I am in the exact same position right now. My baby is 3 weeks and since I gave birth I have been so sad, I miss being pregnant (even though I suffered sickness really bad) and when I look back on the last 9 months I get a feeling of being very overwhelmed and sad that it went so quickly. I do find it helps to speak about it as much as poss so the feelings don't build up inside my head...feels like I'm going insane sometimes! Sorry there is not much I can do to help you feel better, just wanted you to know you are not alone in feeling this way

[Serensmama]

Hi, I have a gorgeous baby girl, just over 2 weeks old and a fantastic husband who is so understanding and supportive but I feel so sad and overwhelmed at times! Especially when my baby is 'purple' crying in the evening I find myself sobbing while breastfeeding too which I don't want to do incase the baby picks up on my emotions. I also have this strange longing to go back to when I gave birth, my stay in hospital, and when I was pregnant (weird considering I had a v.long and difficult birth and the last days of pregnancy were incredibly challenging!!).
All the info I've read about baby blues says it is only in the first week or two so I am a little concerned it has not settled down yet!
I also feel so bad for my husband who is having to share this new parenting experience with a weepy, emotional wreck!!
I hope things settle down and get better... this is such a massive life changing experience and a wonderful adventure for me and hubby, I want to be able to start enjoying it more!!
Good luck to you all above and all those that feel this way, be kind to yourselves

[Cheery145]

Feeling exactly the same, ladies, my first born is 3 weeks old and I adore him and feel so blessed but have been having such a tough time with feeling inexplicably low and stressing about everything. Having spoken to a few other mums I’m starting to accept this is normal and not the same as PND and will hopefully pass. None of us is alone in this, that’s the main thing!

[Serensmama]

Yes Cheery145... I have also spoken with a mum friend who has 2 LOs and she assured me that it is normal to feel low and anxious for 3 to 4 weeks after birth. I think I need to find more mum friends to chat to, I'll be looking for new mum resources in my local area, it's good to share I think!!