Baby blues or just overwhelmed

[feelingblue2017]

I'm really struggling at the moment. I had a baby 4 days ago and we got home from hospital today. Whilst in hospital my husband was up with me from 11-9 each day. Today I'm looking at him and really starting to hate him. For instance last night he went out for a few drinks to wet the babies head which I don't mind but what I do mind is the fact is turned up this morning to take us home and looked like he'd just come from the pub although he said he was home before 1 last night but couldn't have a shower as there was no hot water. The second thing that's bothering me is the minute we got home he's on about how he's hungry hadn't eaten and he'll go to the shop to get food. He's eating food and along with last nights beer farts he's belching up his can of coke. I'm trying to breast feed and all I'm getting is unwanted advice from him (I think he thinks he's trying to be supportive but he's not. Then lastly I ask him to go to the shops to get nipple cream and he's moaning saying I should of asked him earlier. He gets home and then goes I'm just going to go to bed wake me up if you need anything. Can anyone else relate I'm just feeling so frustrated and I'm questioning my choice to breastfeed as it just seems like so much dedication which I didn't mind with my first baby but I feel I'm struggling to breastfeed my new baby and take care of my 4 year old. Is this normal to feel this way

[mistermagpie]

Well my baby was born last Monday and I can categorically say that if my DH had behaved like yours he wouldn't be here! I'm incredibly intolerant of generally shitty behaviour after a bad first marriage, but seriously? He needs to step up. What's he like normally? Is this the way he usually acts?

On the breastfeeding front, I know how you feel. We are currently failing at breastfeeding in the same way that I failed with DS1 and I am very emotional about it. DS2 had a very severe tongue tie (the Dr who cut it said it was a miracle I got him to feed at all) but that's been cut now and still no improvement at all. I'm supplementing with formula. The feeding advisors have told me to express 8 times a day on top of trying to breastfeed and doing formula top-ups but DS1 is only 20 months himself so I literally cannot find the time for all that. Like you, I'm questioning whether pursuing breastfeeding is the right thing for my family, but I feel like I'm choosing DS1s needs over DS2s needs and DS2 isn't even a week old. I've no advice really because I'm just muddling along, but I do know exactly how you feel.

Luckily for me I do have a supportive husband, so get yours told because help at this stage is essential.