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Feeling overwhelmed and down but not about baby...

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VLEB87 Sat 11-Mar-17 09:40:10

I have a beautiful baby boy and an older little lady who are my world but everything else around me is bringing me down.

My husband is suffering from anxiety and depression due to work and also behavioural problems with his son (from a previous relationship) so I'm trying to support him as much as I can.

My mother in law (lives in an annex on the side of our house) has injured her leg and is off her feet so in between carers coming round, I'm next door making meals, ironing, sorting pets etc...

My mum has injured her shoulder and is waiting for surgery. She lives 50 miles away so it's at least an hour away. Her husband (my step dad) works so I try to get over as much as I can to help her out.

My grandma (93) needs to be taken food shopping (she will only shop at Aldi where they don't do home delivery) every week.

My dad has reoccurring health problems and is in and out of hospital.

I am dealing with all this while looking after my baby (who has a heart condition and has been in and out of hospital too). I feel like my kids are the only thing keeping me going. I constantly have a smile on my face so everyone thinks I'm fine as I don't want people thinking I can't look after them but really I'm exhausted and overwhelmed and emotional as soon as I'm alone...

Sorry for the rant but I don't feel like I can talk to anyone close to me without making them feel bad.

MidnightVelvetthe7th Sat 11-Mar-17 10:02:10

Why are you taking responsibility for everyone else when you can't manage it? It's ok to say no flowersgin

Bex134 Fri 17-Mar-17 05:28:05

That's way too many people for you to be looking after. I can understand you have a sense that people need you but those that can need to get support from elsewhere before you also end up unwell. Could you cut some of this back? I.e. Your grandmothers carers should be able to cook her meals- if when you go over you just make cups of tea and then sit down yourself this would be relaxing for you too.

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