Hello,
I had my baby six weeks ago after a pretty traumatic birth.
Since then my partner has gone back to work leaving the baby to me - and I am struggling. Is this normal? Motherhood is not what I expected and I am becoming resentful of everything.
My partner wasn't great during pregnancy (in fact he was drunk/hungover the night/day I went into labour) and has had nights out since/still sees his friends/has time to be an grown up around other people at work ... but complains about how challenging it is and how he would find my role easy. It's making me very resentful and after the exhaustion and loneliness if pregnancy and labour I just can't manage it. Being around a baby 24/7, getting up every night with them and sorting everything for them is difficult - of course it seems easy for two hours a day having had everything bought/organised/cleaned etc for you ... I just feel totally taken for granted.
Our relationship is suffering hugely - I have stopped trusting him due to his selfishness and unreliability during pregnancy, resent him ... at points don't like him and would genuinely rather be on my own - is this normal?
I have very little family and his family are also not really around to help practically much - not that I really trust anyone to look after my baby properly.
I dont know how to cope. I cry a lot, feel like crying a lot and feel painfully lonely - but hide the true extent of it. I second guess everything and - and this is awful, but at points regret everything (my baby is the best thing ever, but this just cant be it ...)I have started tablets for my mood, I just ... I don't even know anymore. Can anyone relate to this? Any advice would be great.
Thanks.
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LittleNettle · 16/06/2016 06:51
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