dh told me the reason dd12 is on strike (in her room, avoidance etc) is that I am "in her face" all the time - I try to engage her in conv, try and have fun, find her stuff to do, have organised for her to walk weekly with a friend. and another outdoor activity, a pony loan . I was offended and said maybe he could be the one 'in her face' for the next few days. he has found it very difficult! he never spends any quality time with her and it was nice seeing him make an effort to talk to her over dinner after having been the one to make sure she completed a school task.
But this has made dh have a wobble and when I went further and pointed out (the next day) how much he does with ds14 who is similar to him in personality/interests compared to ds10 let alone dd12, he ended up shouting at them. Apparently its my fault, I did get him to open up about it. i told him losing his temper and using his booming voice is unacceptable. But still, am I making a big deal out of this, is it in the family's interests to carry on like this? am I barking up the wrong tree? do dads and daughters matter? is this an example of male entitlement?
we can move on from this but I woyld love other peoples experiences and views.
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Stovetopespresso · 06/02/2021 09:58
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