I need a break. If that makes me the worst mum in the world, then I will accept that.
DD is coming up to 6 months.
Mentally I’m struggling with a lot of things.
I’m getting 2/3 hours sleep on a night as she isn't sleeping very well. She's constantly waking up and being unsettled.
She's not sleeping during the day unless she's attached to my boob using me as a dummy (I've tried a dummy and she isn't interested)
I get absolutely zero time to do anything around the house during the day as she won't let me put her down to nap so I have to sit whilst she suckles on me and sleeps and then when she's awake I'm spending time entertaining her.
I don’t get chance to eat lunch without rushing and feeling sick because she wants me to pick her up or doesn't like it if I leave the room.
I don’t feel like I get anytime away from being mummy to just refresh to be the best mummy I can be!
My husband is at work all day, he gets home at 4.30 and I start the bedtime routine at 6pm so I only have an hour and half with him, and that time is spent one of us cooking tea and us sitting down to eat.
Once we put her to bed around 7 I stay up with her so that I can get some sleep as she's waking every 45/50 minutes during the night.
My husband has tried to do the bedtime routine to give me that extra time to myself, but it's impossible as she won't settle without boob and she gets really upset with him, she's even started grabbing her face and scratching herself because she gets that upset looking for me.
I can't really ask family to help me out as we're socially distancing and haven't yet had family around to hold her (since March)
I love my baby so much, but I feel like it's just non stop and the days are all just rolling into one.
I feel like we're lacking any sort of routine and I don't know how to establish one or even if we can at this stage.
I don't want time away from her, I just need short break each day to refresh, because right now all day is spent taking care of her right up until her bed time and at that point I go to bed too.
I want to be the best mummy I can be but I don't feel like I can do that if I'm not getting some down time.
Please tell me how we can improve things.
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Is it supposed to be this hard?! :(
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charlieschoc · 12/08/2020 15:24
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