First of all, I wanted to say thank you for your help previously with me. I'm not sure if I did say thanx at the time, my head's a bit all over the place at the moment.
The situation we have at the moment is that next thursday the church are going to vote on whether or not to employ my dh as a full time Youth and Community worker. The eldership are very much behind us we are just needing the congregation to decide where they are at.
At the moment my dh is is in full time employment with the Navy and is youth deacon for the church. As you can imagine this takes up quite a lot of his time (youth work can be quite demanding).
So by him leaving work to work for the church, he will not only be able to dedicate more time to youth work and start the projects he wants to. But he will also be able to dedciate more time to his family.
For some people in the church us having a young family has been a stumbling block. Our girls are 6,5 and 2. And the two oldest are home-schooled.
As I have said by him taking up this job it will actually allow more time for our family as he not be trying to juggle a full time and a part time job.
Now here's were it gets sticky. I am 11 weeks pg. By the time we have the meeting I will be 12 weeks pg. We have told a few close friends in the church, but not everyone. Due to the fact that in january I had a missed m/c and I want my scan first so I know everything will be ok.
I have no date for m scan yet, but it is likely to be the week after the meeting.
So lets imagine everything goes well at the meeting and dh gets the job. Then the following week I tell them i'm pg. How awful would that look to the church members. Like we've been hiding it from them for fear dh wouldn't get the job if they knew. Which of course is not the truth.
On the other hand if I tell them it will give them more to worry about regarding our young family. And could thus create an even bigger stumbling block for us. Despite, as I have previously said dh getting the job will actually be better for us family wise. People can sometimes find that difficult to see.
So I dont know what to do. The last thing I want is for the church members to think we were being sneaky by not telling them. But it is natural for most parents not to tell about a pg until they are past the 12 week point.
Your advice on this would be great. Thanx
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whatawally · 16/09/2008 09:53
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