Not me - I was baptised as a baby - but my dd2. Neither of my dds were baptised as babies, as dh is a total atheist and I was agnostic at the time and felt it would be hypocritical to 'go through the motions' when I wasn't really sure what I believed (I wasn't prepared to stand up and say 'I believe and trust in Him' and not mean it, basically...).
Fast forward 9 years. I have rediscovered my faith and dd2 comes to church with me regularly, attends Junior Church and says that she believes in God and is a Christian. (Dd1 is another matter, but that's a different thread, and actually I am happy for her to make up her own mind.)
I have talked to dd2 about maybe being baptised, but she insists that she doesn't want to. Now, I will not put any pressure on her, obviously; it's her decision. However, I don't know what to say when she says 'Why should I?'. It's a genuine question... I have told her that I don't believe that God loves her any less because she is not baptised (she was briefly at Catholic school and I was a bit worried about her being told that she would go to Hell because she wasn't baptised - I know that the Catholic Church abolished Limbo, but I was not sure exactly what the position would be on an unbaptised nine-year-old and I wasn't taking any chances!). I have told her that baptism is a welcoming into the Christian family, and a promise that we [well, I in this case, since dh wouldn't have anything to do with it] will bring her up in a Christian context, but she just says 'I go to church, I believe in God, you tell me about Jesus, what more do I need?'. Which is, I think, a good question... So far, I've just said 'OK, well, think about it and if you want to be baptised when you're older you can do so' (I've told her that I understand it's possible to be baptised and confirmed at the same time, though she claims at the moment that she doesn't want to be confirmed either...). But are there better answers than this?
I think, incidentally, that part of her reluctance comes from being quite shy and feeling it might be embarrassing to have everyone looking at her. Again, I am not going to put pressure on her, but am just interested in finding better answers to her questions.
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Why should I get baptised?
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TotallyUnheardOf · 27/06/2011 17:45
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