It will be our 10th wedding anniversary in April 2011.
We got married in a church. Dh was a very backslidden christian and not living a faith led life at all. I wasn't a christian at all. I wanted the church wedding, for the bells mainly and the tradionalism/romantacism of it all.
Fast forward to today. We have 4 beautiful children 3 girls and a boy. After our second child was born I had post-natal depression. Things were bad between us, he went out every weekend and I hardly saw him. I asked for a divorce and at the time I meant it. But something happened. I found God or God found me. I gave my life to Jesus and immediately began living a new life. This encouraged dh to find his love for God. And since then we have gone from strength to strength. That was 6 and 1/2 years ago.
Today we have a marriage which I am really proud of. It's not perfect but we are working on it. Our marriage is biblically sound, we support and encourage each other. And of course we love each other to bits.
Dh just came back from mandate and was listening to Mark Driscoll preaching. Apparently he was very challenging. He talked a lot about treating your wife with respect and confessing any things you might have been holding back.
So feeling very challenged and convicted dh came back, sat me down and told me that during our rough patch he passionatly kissed 5 women on 5 seperate nights out. I was very upset about this obviously. But I've gotten over that and worked through it and dh are stronger than ever. I know he was a different person back then as was I.
But I still feel that the origional vows we made almost 10 years ago are not relevant to our marriage today. Partly because dh has broken them and partly because, although we married in a church we didn't really have any idea of the marriage God wanted us to have. It was all about us, and God played no part in it.
Today our faith is a big party of our life and renewing our vows in front of God seems like the most logical thing do.
But what do other christians think about it. I know there are some threads on mn saying that marriage renewals are tacky. But I am interested in a christian viewpoint.
Thanx.
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pinkdolly · 26/11/2010 19:54
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