Our cat has cancer [sad]

[mycatwantstokillme1]

And I am just full of grief. At Christmas he was going wild over his new catnip toys but just under 2 weeks ago he started weeing in the bathroom because he couldn't jump up onto the working top to get out of the window. Then he went off his dry food but wet food gives him diarrhoea. He just wants to sleep in my sons room with him. (Son has aspergers and when I say he has no friends, he has some friends that are my friends kids but not one friend at his secondary school). DS has been seeing CAMHS for over a year and just started to turn a corner. But when we took cat to vet yesterday they confirmed cancer and he only has a few months if lucky. They've given him some steroid tablets to hopefully perk him up a bit. But I think it's going to be less than a few months and more than likely just a few weeks.

Trying to deal with my own grief on top of how my son is going to feel and just can't stop crying.

[FizzPopping]

I don't have any useful advice but just wanted to say how sorry I am. It's such a difficult time with any much loved pet and even more so with your worries about how your son will be. Make sure you take it easy, it will have been a big shock

[mycatwantstokillme1]

FizzPopping thank you for your kind words and understanding. It's so sad, if I start talking about it IRL I just cry

[hotwater]

I'm so sorry. I lost my boy to cancer last summer - he was black and white and beautiful like yours. It was so quick and traumatic, I absolutely adored him. I had about a month with him after diagnosis. He had fish and catnip and cuddles every day then I had a special last day with him watching movies, feeding him fish and playing gently in the garden. I do actually have some special memories of that last month heartbreaking though it was. I hope your son will be ok

[Weebleswobbles]

for your family- always so sad when you know you're going to have to lose a much loved pet who has brought so much love and joy into your family

Your cat has been so lucky to have had such a wonderful family who has loved and cared for him.

If it's terminal, please consider having the vet visit to pts very soon as preventing your dear cat from suffering is the last gift you can give him

[Wolfiefan]

We had a boy with stomach cancer. He was comfortable on steroids and a low dose chemo (tablet) for quite a while.
Spoil him and make the most of the time you have left.

[YesItsMeIDontCare]

Your cat has been so lucky to have had such a wonderful family who has loved and cared for him.

Absolutely. And you^ have been so lucky to have had such a wonderful cat who has loved you.

Hold on to those thoughts, and allow them to make you smile.

You have my utmost sympathy.

[mycatwantstokillme1]

Thank you all so much. Your replies brought tears to my eyes but it doesn't take much I've cried more in the last 2 days than I have in the last 2 years I think. He's on steroids at the moment and got his appetite back a bit and seems a tiny bit happier. But I don't want him to be in pain so although they've said he could a few months I'm thinking it might be better for him if we let him go sooner. I just can't bear the thought of him going but I know it's right. Am dreading going to work tomorrow I know if anyone asks me about him I will just sob and sob. Luckily where I work many of my colleagues have dogs and bring them into work so I know they understand the bond. But it's still so unearable.

Thank you all again.

[Trustyourself2]

It is so hard to deal with the passing of a beloved pet. He looks adorable. I have an old boy who I don't expect to be around for much longer and I'm dreading it. You'll have lots of happy memories of him. Just cling to those on the bad days and give him lots him lots of hugs while he's still with you and your DS. Your mumsnet friends will be thinking of you.

[Toddlerteaplease]

Really sorry to hear this. My cat is being investigated for possible lymphoma, though she's a bit of a mystery as it doesn't add up. It's been the most stressful couple of weeks of my life. I totally understand how hard it is.