Inviting Twins to parties

[CHOOGIRL]

I am arranging 4th party for DD who attends kindergarten. I am inviting everyone in her class. There are two sets of twins (ie 4 children) in her year one of each set in her class. I think I ought to invite the two children who are in the other class. Is that the norm?

[TsarChasm]

Only if they are directly friends with your dd and she wishes to invite them.

I would say please don't feel you have to just because they're twins.

My dt's are in separate classes. I wanted them to build up separate friends if they wanted to. Although they sometimes both get asked to parties, often they don't; and they are fine with that. They've always understood that they don't always automatically do the same as each other.

They always take separate cards and presents too if they do both go to the same party.

[GetOrfMoiLand]

I totally agree Tsarchasm

Dd has been friends since reception with a gril who is a twin - the twins are in seperate classes, and I have always just invited the one twin to dd's birthdays, as she doesn't really know the twin who is in the other class.

It's very considerate of you to think it, but I wouldn't bother tbh.

[TsarChasm]

GetOrfMoiLand - right as ever.

[CHOOGIRL]

Thank you that is very helpful. My DP is a twin but was absolutely no use on this one!

[MuffinToptheMule]

One of my charges had a birthday party last year. She invited the twin from her class but not the twin from the other class as she wasn't friends with him. The mum of the twins brought them both to the party and said, ' It's not fair on twin A if twin B gets go to a party and twin A doesn't, so I've brought them both.' She then left both of the twins at the party and sauntered off.

[CHOOGIRL]

Hmm How old were they Muffin... These twins are only 3 so was thinking a) they wouldn't understand why one went and the other didn't and b) hassle for mother to find childcare on Sunday afternoon. It's at a soft play so it's not as though I have any 'work' to do as such...

[MuffinToptheMule]

They were 5. The mother wouldn't have to find childcare as she wasn't staying at the party. I'm not sure about 3 year olds though. I think if you expect the parents to stay then yes the twin should be invited but if the parents aren't staying then they could take the other twin home.