What do I do about this party invitation? dilemma!

[filthymindedbolshevixen]

ds2 has been friends with this small group of boys for 2 years. One of the mums came up to me last week and said ''Billy'' was having a small party and could ds2 come. i said yes please. We got the official invite 3 days ago. Now ds2 says the child has fallen out with him and told him he has to bring back the invite so he can rip it up. ds is obviously quite distressed. The mum is lovely but I don't know her very well.

Should we
just sadly find ourselves unavailable on that date after all (having already verbally said he'd love to come)

Should I make ds go and risk this child being really mean to him at the party

Should I have a quiet word with the mum and explain that her son obviously doesn't really want ds to come.

what would you do?

[gomez]

Quiet word with the mum I think.

[moopymoo]

word with the mum. def. she probably knows nothing about it. It will likely blow over and they will be friends again soon anyway.

[Twiglett]

quiet word with the mum, but also expect the argumetn to blow over

funny how nasty small children can be at times isn't it

[newlifenewname]

How old isds2?

[Notquitegrownup]

Ditto. Quiet word with Mum. Billy may have already forgotten about falling out, or she might be able to find out what is going on and help to smooth things over.

[filthymindedbolshevixen]

he is 7 in october.

I can't get to the bottom of what has happened between them. I have an inkling there is a touch of jealousy as ''billy'' was very good friends with another boy who has since decided he likes my son a little better as a close friend. Of course, I don't know if my son has been vile to billy. he says not.

[ahundredtimes]

I'd go for the quiet word option - though if it were me, I might shout and laugh too loudly, by mistake.

If only so that Mum goes steaming home and says, 'you stop being nasty to that nice Filthy boy, you hear me? He's coming to your party and you're going to be lovely.'

Billy didn't mean it, he's on a Birthday Power Trip. They're bad - I know this because my dd is on one at the moment, I am thinking of cancelling her party.

[filthymindedbolshevixen]

chuckle at birthday power trip. Actually yes, that makes sense.

Trouble is this ds is 7 in Oct and I am trying to plan for it. But it's fecking hard when you don't know who he is speaking to!

[throckenholt]

how long before the party ? If soon then have a word with the mum, if a bit further off I would leave it for a few days and then see if they are still not friends.

[filthymindedbolshevixen]

couple of weeks but rsvp date is about 6 days away.

[newgirl]

have a quick word with the mum but id plan tot take your son - leave your mobile number and say contact you if need be

[throckenholt]

well if you have already verbally said yes than that counts as rsvp in my book. I would leave it till a few days before - if they are still not happy with each other I would have a word with the mum - and decide between you how to deal with it.

[MaryAnnSingleton]

third option I think.

[NAB3]

Quiet word with Mum after leaving it a couple of days to see if it has all blown over. Make it clear it is not a problem for the invite to be declined, if your child prefers that.

[FrannylinePankhurst]

Yes I agree with everyone

it may blow over, but you need to mention it to the mother

good luck

[TooTicky]

Quiet word, yes.
Am at "that nice Filthy boy" though!

[purpleduck]

My son has gone through this tons - he has 2 good friends, and tbh, the other two are more alike. They have fallen out alot. When it has gotten serious, then us mums have had a word, all of us, with the children, going over what acceptable behaviour is. imo, it does blow over, and quickly. I would have a word with the mum, but def still take your son (as long as mum says its still ok!)

[filthymindedbolshevixen]

Thanks for all your thoughts. Will let you know how I get on

[NKF]

Chances are they'll have made up by tomorrow.