Hello all. Our 19yo daughter has always been “lively” but we’ve had several incidents in the last 2 or so years that are making her living here untenable.
She dropped out of college in the first term of her second year. Didn’t work for several months but eventually found full time work. Was sacked after 2 months because she had too many days off (drunk/hungover/overslept). She does get drunk, also smokes weed (and possibly but I haven’t got hard evidence of other drugs). She gets violent and difficult when drunk and we’ve had the police out (called by neighbours, not us) more than once. There’s been the odd day of casual work but nothing for a while. We don’t know how she’s funding her socialising, but we do lock cash away.
We were away last night and get a message from our other daughter (23, full time work, engaged, fairly easy going and also lives at home) that the younger was shouting, sweating and banging on the door because she’d forgotten her key. Elder daughter didn’t let her in (there’s been nasty incidents between them before) and she went fairly quickly, possibly to sleep at a friend’s.
We get back and quite a few antique stained glass front door panels have been smashed in, obviously she was trying to unlock the door but there’s a secondary lock.
So this is the culmination of several years’ anti social behaviour. She isn’t working or claiming UC. We think 6 months notice to leave, which we’ll decrease by half if there’s a further incident. Any more that one further incident, she gets a week.
It seems harsh, but we’re at tether’s end here.
Thoughts please?
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Bonkersblonde · 07/03/2020 17:54
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