Hi - I'm in a state, so please I cannot take any flaming or blame!
My DS(21) is at uni & living at home. He has been having some problems with an online gaming addiction (that's a whole other load of crap), but at the moment that doesn't seem to be going on. I knew something wasn't right with him, and he wasn't going in to uni. I kept asking him & he said he didn't have a class, or whatever.
Today I saw 2 envelopes & recognised them as student loans - so I asked him what's going on with them - he says he'd look later (we were driving to his appt with physios at neurology hospital).
I forced the issue when I got home a bit later - he has been having anxiety attacks at uni & not going / leaving early, hates his course, doesn't want to go back. Then found out he was removed from the course as he hadn't applied for some part.
Background - he was born with congenital hip dysplasia which ended up being a v complex, unusual case, then we found out he has a rare form of muscular dystrophy. He has had shingles 16 times. He has had a variety of other health issues & doctors have no idea whether there's a unifying condition (but suspect they'll never find out). He was bullied v badly & I took him out of school - he went to new secondary & had a lot of SEN support. He has struggled to make friends & he is socially very anxious. I was worried he was depressed & asked him to take NHS depression test online - he said answering it he actually got more for anxiety.
He had a p/t job & was on 90 day "trial" but had 2 absences & lost that. He is appealing (long story), but tbh I don't hold out any hope.
He gets PIP highest rate for care & mobility.
I just don't know what to do. I've made a GP appt for him in 2 weeks.
I think I felt he was kind of "protected" from a lot of life stuff that he'll struggle with, as he was at uni, but now I am terrified of the future.
I'm a single parent (no support) with my own severe MH issues & am struggling at the moment, before this.
DS has been through over 20 surgeries, countless hospital stays, appointments, assessments & therapies. He struggles socially. He's now admitting his anxiety is worse than I knew.
Sorry this is so long. I've got nobody to speak to & I'm in pieces.
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QueenOfOversharing · 30/01/2020 16:52
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