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joesy43 · 08/03/2019 22:39

Contacted by a girl who has said my daughter used her photo on this site and contacted a boy pretending to be her saying inappropriate things. Has said she will go to police if doesn't get a written apology. She says my dd has taken it down and admitted it was her. Thoughts? ps i am aware this is wrong

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HappyMama01 · 08/03/2019 22:48

So your daughter was a catfish. Doubt police will do anything

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FlibbertyGiblets · 08/03/2019 22:50

Does your daughter's version tie up with the information you've received?

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FleeceDetective · 08/03/2019 22:52

Why has she contacted you??

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AnchorDownDeepBreath · 08/03/2019 22:57

How old is your DD?

Why have you been contacted?

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thecutecouple · 08/03/2019 22:58

If you give a written apology, it is likely the evidence she will use to sue your DD.

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joesy43 · 08/03/2019 23:05

She contacted me I assume by looking up my dd friends list? My dd is 19. She said she has contacted me as a parent as she hasn't received an apology like she asked so felt the need to reach out to me

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joesy43 · 08/03/2019 23:06

My daughter has gone out after work and I want to talk to her in person so her version I haven't got yet

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FleeceDetective · 08/03/2019 23:08

Is the woman who’s pictures were used also 19? And a friend/acquaintance of your daughter, or a complete stranger to her?

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joesy43 · 08/03/2019 23:16

She said 'your daughter is an acquaintance of a friend of mine and that is how I was able to obtain your name'..the boy who the chat was with the girl says she doesn't know him personally just knows of him

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joesy43 · 08/03/2019 23:19

I have no idea of age..looks similar age but can't be sure

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joesy43 · 08/03/2019 23:20

She doesn't know my daughter at all

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blackcat86 · 08/03/2019 23:24

Why would your daughter send her a written acknowledgment of guilt when the police will do absolutely nothing about it. I would be emailing the girl back and saying that actually DD is a grown adult so any quarrel between them should stay as such and the girl should do what she feels she needs to if she wants to take it further. You can acknowledge that catfishing is awful for all involved.

But, do speak to DD about how horrible it is if she has done it. Watch the TV show catfish if you want some insight or advice.

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joesy43 · 08/03/2019 23:43

Thanks..have replied asking questions on what was said in chat..something about making babies! etc.Very strange...was unsure re police involvement but only re fraud or financial gain..tbh it is all very bizarre contacting a parent but as she didn't get an apology she seems to want to take it further..written apology is a bit over the top?

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gettofuckthrees · 09/03/2019 12:53

She will be wanting a written apology so she can take a photo and post it online - no doubt with the intention of shaming your daughter. The young uns these days rarely do anything without involving social media to share it.

Not a very good position to be in, your daughter will have learned a hard lesson here.

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joesy43 · 09/03/2019 13:18

I have spoken to her and yes you are right this is what she wants a written apology to be screenshot and posted on facebook. She has been messaging dd multiple times and threatened to contact me...just wish I had known. I have explained to her this is not what smart girls do and she knows better. I expect a message from this girl..should I block her or if she does should I say stop harrassing me or I will take it further?

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Grace212 · 09/03/2019 16:06

how old is your DD? Surely she should be dealing with this.

block and ignore.

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