I feel like I have become so internally hostile ( not able to explode as I would lose my marriage), because of the way I was betrayed by my mother in law and the way I am supposed to accept it as part of life and be more than loving towards her for the sake of being the bigger person.
I can’t go into the specifics but in a nutshell she has betrayed me when I was super soft and sweet and laid back with her to a point where I let her choose my wedding deess and jewellery because she insisted and I didn’t want to upset her... but she did end up trying to turn my husband against me -unprovoked at all- behind my back.. in a sly way.
I struggle to see her in a positive light. I now question every smile and action even if outwardly looks kind because I have seen her be fake with everyone.
But I would like to hear from mother in laws out there, to improve my understanding of her as to not take it personal .... do u feel there are certain things u wishes ur daughter in laws would understand ??? Is it at all about trying to make her understand or is it purely about ur relationship with ur son?
For me, my mil when her son isn’t obeying her to the letter she blames me for it, and when he obeys her she thinks he is too good for me... either way I get to be the bad guy... and it seems to me to be all a matter of obedience=good. He is an adult (25) and recently married to me, me ans her were on very good terms before marriage ...after marriage the good terms stayed with my efforts... until my efforts declined a little because I was hurt by something she did/Said and then she became extremely hostile
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Sk1208 · 22/04/2018 15:57
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