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pasta261 · 28/03/2018 22:08

Update to so angry at DDs partner: So he’s at it again. He was back home for a bit and my DD was seeing him, messaging etc. She even drove him to the airport as he went to visit relatives for a bit. He’s been back a couple of weeks and now there’s more pictures on socials where he’s clearly with the other girl again in a hotel while my DD has been running around after his family and sorting out stuff for him. This situation has been going on for at least 4 months now and I’m just getting angrier and angrier, why doesnt she just tell him to f o*. I hate seeing the way she is, she’s so aggressive and clearly in a lot of distress but seems to still be thinking that he’ll come back to her. It’s upsetting me so much. So earlier this evening I overheard DD saying to one of her friends that she thought they may have had separate rooms as her was trying to start conversations with her earlier in the week. Just now she has been crying again because he has said they need to talk more and last time he said this was when he originally broke off the relationship so I guess she’s thinking he’s going to say that he now doesn’t want to get back with her, she is still clearly madly in love with him. I don’t know if I should message her to say I realised she was upset and hope she’s ok, she really can’t carry on like this

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AjasLipstick · 29/03/2018 08:41

How old is she?

When I was about 20 I was with a proper wanker...horrid man.

My Mum watched me for a year run around after him and she never said much. Then when he finally dumped me, she said "You will be over him in two weeks!"

And I bloody was too! I think I was over him that quickly because she said it. She said "He was never good enough for you anyway"

But importantly, she never said a word whilst I was going through it.

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pasta261 · 29/03/2018 09:42

If you look at the original post you will see she’s 29 and he’s 26. They’ve been together 4 years, while future planned, etc
This has been going on since November so it’s not as simple as that

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pasta261 · 29/03/2018 21:49

In a bit of a panic now, I’m pretty sure she’s gone to his and this will be either them back together or all off completely. Whilst I think he has behaved appallingly I just don’t know how she’ll cope if it’s all off. She hasn’t lost any feeling for him at all over the last few months and is completely convinced that they belong together and it’s just his new job that’s making him think he can’t be in a relationship. She was having panic attacks about this before, not eating, sleeping, working and I’m worried this is all going to start again and she’s going to get really ill.