Housekeeping contributions

[AMBMUM]

Hi what would you think would be a reasonable amount to ask for housekeeping money from two adult children who have returned home after previously living independently? They currently pay £150 each per month and they buy their own food. Thank you

[Nanasueathome]

I would say that what they are paying is absolutely fine
Are you thinking of asking for more?

[AMBMUM]

No not really but some of my friends think it's too low but I want them to be able to save for their own places

[PUGaLUGS]

That sounds reasonable to me if they are buying their own food.

[C0untDucku1a]

Are they good at saving? My sister didnt leave home until gone 30 but never saved a penny. She always had a low paid job and high-end cars!

Id be tempted to take more and save the difference for them in secret and present it as extra when they move on.

[ReinettePompadour]

I think £150 is about right given they buy their own food.

In fact I think your getting much more than those I know. Others only charge their dc for the cost of washing powder and use of electricity so around £10 per week. They pay for their own food/toiletries/phones/cars etc.
Another parent only asks for money towards anything they've used so if they eat Dads ham they pay for it or if they use the internet more than others or want a particular tv package they pay for it or if they put the heating on they pay for it. The bedroom would be sat there empty anyway so it may as well be used.

[MrsEileithyia]

I used to give £300 a month but DM was my work taxi. When I got my own place DM gave me a whopping stash back that she had been secretly saving for me. Was an amazing surprise!

[AMBMUM]

Thank you all for your advice

[Howlongtilldinner]

My DS is nearly 20. He dropped out in the first year of uni, didn’t bother to get a job until one ‘landed’ in his lap. He is picked up/dropped off and paid cash in hand.

He has more disposable income than me (single parent) and I’ve asked for £25 a week keep. He paid 2 weeks, for the past 3 weeks he can’t pay because he owes money elsewhere, but manages to smoke weed and go drinking.

I always have to ask for it, never offers. Doesn’t do a thing indoors, and rarely acknowledges me unless he wants something. He’s just told me if I treated him better he would probably be inclined to give me some money. I’m flabbergasted and lost the plot I’m afraid

[EdWest]

AMBMUM, I would LOVE to get £150. None of my 3 ds has ever had a job, ever, not even little teenage jobs like babysitting, washing cars, cutting hedges. I don't understand why they don't want to work, I would've been ashamed at their age.
Howlong, I so don't blame you for losing it. How dare he run up other debts that come before paying his keep. How long till dinner? Until you pay what you owe.

[Gingerkittykat]

My daughter (20) pays £50 per week, she was first a student, then worked part time earning £150 per week and now works full time. She ends up buying some of her own food, and all of her own toileteries but everything else is included. Right now I'm thinking of upping the digs slightly, I am resentful that she has so much spare money when I am paying all of the bills with very little, if anything, left over.

She was initially resistant to paying anything, until I showed her Gumtree adverts of exactly how much a room cost in our area and she realises she has a good deal.

For those young adults who don't want to pay then get them to work out exactly how much life would cost them. Work out the costs in a shared flat for electric, gas, council tax, food, internet etc and then have them moan.

[mumeeee]

OP that sounds fine to me especially as they are buying their own food. Don't listen to your friends