DD is (and always has been) extremely outgoing, confident, loud, defiant, argumentative, "energetic" (read hyper) and rough with other kids (including the DSes). I am really at a loss with how to deal with her.
Today for example she hit DS1 in the mouth with a broom handle (giving him a bloody lip), she slammed a door on his head, she jumped on him and she stabbed a stick into the back of his hand. They actually play really nicely together most of the time, but she just can't seem to help herself from suddenly taking their "game" way too far.
When we're out (e.g. yesterday I had to spend a couple of hours at hospital with DS1 ....NOT injury-related! ) she behaves like a lunatic. She is constantly hurling herself around and interrupting adults and shrieking and running away.
She does not give a shit about my stern words, or about reward charts or punishments (e.g. confiscating toys). She just stares back at me with that sulky teenageresque face which winds me up so badly.
I ended up shouting at her REALLY loudly in her face today, and later when I caught her stabbing DS in the hand I flipped and cuffed her (lightly) on the back of the head. It didn't actually hurt her, but I obviously feel full of remorse that I essentially lashed out in anger / shock.
Anyway, I'm beginning to wonder if I should be seeking some sort of external help. All the other five year olds I know are sooo chilled and kind to their siblings. I was myself a super-chilled and "obedient" kid, so maybe I'm just no good at working out what makes her tick.
I should add that she has LOADS of really positive personality traits, and that I find her awesome in all sorts of ways, but the negative stuff is overshadowing them, and I'm beginning to dread having to spend time with her .
Does anyone have any advice?
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Absolutely at my wits' end with 5.6 yr old DD - have been horrible to her today. Please help!
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SpawnChorus · 08/07/2010 19:32
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