My son is 11 and in his last year at primary. He has never been and probably never will be a "popular" kid but he's comfortable with who he is and he does have a couple of decent friends. Most of the time though he prefers his own space.
Anyway a couple of weeks ago I noticed he was guarding his mobile phone and taking it everwhere with him. Naturally I snuck a peek when I could and saw that he had been texting back and forth with a girl from school. This suprised me as the girl is quite "popular" and not DS's usual type of friend. But anyway a few days ago he asked me if it was ok to get rid of some of his possessions. I asked if he was intending to sell them and he said "no, I'll just give them away, someone at school wants them". I knew who he meant but I asked anyway and it was the girl he'd been texting. I said "No, some of those things are worth a lot of money, you're not just giving them away. If she really wants them, ask if she wants to buy them from you". He whinged but finally accepted that he wasn't allowed.
I snuck another look on his phone that night and there was a message from her saying "can't you just put them in your pocket and sneak them to school behind her back?"
Apart from this she has also had him searching the net for song lyrics and printing them all out for her etc.
I had a brief chat with DS about people who can sometimes "seem" like a friend when really they're just using you. Mentioning no names of course.
Anyway I also read a txt from him saying he couldn't sneak them into school (and I do trust him here, he's a sensible kid) and apologising.
Then tonight I've just read a text from him saying "so, we're still friends?" and she replied with "n o spells no"
Now maybe I'm jumping to conclusions here but it seems to me she has just proved my point entirely about people who "seem" to be a friend. I feel really sorry for DS who has obviously just had the piss ripped out of him all along but what do I do? I can't always interfere and wrap him in cotton wool can I? I know he'll be upset but do I just let him learn from it or what?
Its so hard watching people treating your babies like shite isn't it?
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11 year old - please help me to avoid interfering
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PaperFlower · 29/04/2010 17:01
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