feeling inferior..is it just me?

[yellowfork]

At groups or when out and about (I have 2 dc) I feel inferior to everyone else am just being overly sensitive?

Dc1 is 4 so I'm not new to the baby, toddler stuff, i just sometimes feel that everyone has their own little cliques there own busy social lives where I just hang out on the sidelines like I don't fit in.

Its hard to articulate how I feel, its just in the 4 years of being mostly a SAHM and meeting a load of new people i am finding the superficial chit chat tiring! its prob me too, i mean i've got that fake smile down to a fine art! i don't feel the conversation is real, maybe i'm living in the wrong city, maybe i am inferior?

sigh...

[mummytime]

Oh I've been there. Do you sometimes not want to talk about Nappies, or listen to someone show off how she hasn't read a book since her kids were born?
Just try to find the other Mums like you, when DC at school do a bit of volunteering to meet people. Join a book group, do a course. Just find some sanity somewhere.

[Condensedmilkaddict]

I'll bet most mums you meet feels the same way you do...

[ronshar]

Are you me??

[Meglet]

me too. Constantly neurotic and stressed when I'm out with the dc's trying to make sure they aren't doing something daft and can't concentrate on grown up stuff too. It's hard to have a decent chat in a busy toddler group when it's noisy & hectic.

Not the ideal situation to make friends IME.

[MunchMummy]

No ronshar, she is me!!

[didgeridoo]

No, I've felt the same way for years. Not so much inferior, but on the sidelines definitely! It's only since joining MN that I've realized it isn't just me. I love the fact I can come on here, read & give honest opinions without the worry of misinterpretation and/or terrible recriminations! I hate chit chat too & would love to have "meatier" conversations but that usually leads to trouble in RL.

[yellowfork]

thanks for your messages, feeling better knowing i'm not alone and i'm kinda normal to think this! lol

[lovecheese]

Where do you live? I would relish some adult conversation rather than the usual bollocks at playgroup!

[ronshar]

Yes shall we all meet up and talk about the state of the world. Anything than our children.
I promise I wont even smile.