Has anyone else got a nearly 5yr old still not dry at night?

[bradsmissus]

DS will be 5 in May and is still in nappies at night. He potty trained fairly easily by 2.5 and has never wet during the day.

His nappies are very wet in the morning so he is going alot.

I have just read a sight which says keeping them in nappies removes the incentive to get dry but I'm not sure?

I suppose I am either looking for some reassurance that it's more common than I think or for someone to tell me it's not right so i can do something about it.

I have got to the point where I don't trust my own instincts.

[Merle]

Nearly 8-year old in our house. Some children don't produce a certain hormone, which prevents urination at night. It develops later. We've decided to leave it until the autumn before taking it any further. It is much more common than you think.

[GlastonburyGoddess]

my ds1-6yrs is not dry at night, same as yours in that he was daytrained fairly early. hes wears huggies drynites the ones that go from 7-15years, expensive but im not really concerned at this point, apparently they cant stay dry at night until they start releasing enough of a particular hormone. I was a v late wetter so im not getting too stressed about it and drs will only start to see it as not normal after age 8.

[GlastonburyGoddess]

sorry dont want to cause offence by the last line of my post, what I meant is that they see it as quite common up to age 8 and will only look at wetting alarms etc after this age.

[MamaMtundu]

My friend's little boy was wet at night until the end of his reception year, umm, so until he was about 5.5

My ds was also potty trained quite early for a boy at 2.3, yet was not dry at night until he was 4.5, so was later than many of his peers. HTH

[superme]

yes Ive been posting on this section...ds is just 5 and weve had some dry mornings so decided to take off the Drynites plus I'd run out one night. Weve had 4 dry mornings and 4 wet nights! Im giving it one more go tonight then if wet - its waking him early hours Im going back to drynites until he's ready.

[bradsmissus]

Thanks all. As I thought, nothing to worry about.

Just had one of those stupid moments where you feel like you're getting it all wrong. Mostly brought on by my own Mother!

Thanks for you replies.

[AngryPixie]

My ds has dropped his pj pants this week WOO-HOO almost 5.5 yrs.

I was getting a bit twitchy (quietly) but Dr. said he wouldn't consider seeing him until he was 7yrs

[traceybath]

DS1 is 5.5 and not dry at night and like yours potty trained in the day at just over 2.

SIL whose a GP assures me its very common and they won't do anything until he's older. Interestingly I know that DH and his brother both took ages to be dry at night and my niece and nephew on that side took ages as well. So I wonder if its a genetic thing at all??

[Madsometimes]

My dd2 was still wearing night nappies in reception, and I am fairly sure that she was not the only one. She will be 7 in July, and is out of nappies but wets the bed fairly frequently (more than once a fortnight).

[Milliways]

I have posted many times about DS who was not dry until after we attended the Eneurisis clinic when he was 7.

Some useful points that may help the older child:

Ensure they drink LOADS in the day, to increase their bladder capacity. Reduce from 4pm and only water after tea. Blackcurrant Squash is acidic and doesn't help, nor does pure OJ or any fizz. If they can be cut it helps.

Practice "holding on" in the day. Lots of these children are programmed to go to the loo as soon as they feel the urge. When they want to go, ask them to wait 5-10 mins (you'll be amazed-they forget for much longer). Even better, get them to count to 10 whilst at/on the loo, just before they go. This helps to train the bladder to feel when it needs to go, and help wake them in the night if it gets that sensation.

Remove nappies. They subconciously know they are on so don't make the effort.

We had notices that on summer holidays, when DS was drinking loads of water, he was dry at night! We encouraged him to drink lots exra at school and as soon as he came home, then a drink with tea, then just water if needed and it worked (but he WAS 7)

HTH

[Acinonyx]

One dd 5 in July and not reliably dry during the day never mind the night. I have no plans to night train her until we really crack the daytime accidents.

[MangoTango]

I know of 3 of my dd's friends who wear a nappy at night at age 5-6. That is just the ones i know of, there are probably lots more who don't advertise it. Although my dd has been out of nappies since age 4, she still sometimes wets the bed.

[LoveJules3]

My dd2 will be 5 in aug and not dry. Her sister was dry at 3.5 and i'm trying so hard not to compare. My dh wants to push her, but at the mo we are rewarding for dry nappies and not punishing for wet. we have the occasional dry night and they seem to be getting more frequent. She's a very deep sleepr too so i'm well aware it may take longer.

[mrspooh]

myt best friend had this with her daughter, had a hv who specialised in it visit. advice was make sure dd drank lots as she was never used to her bladder feeling full and therefore feeling the pressure and needing to wee. this meant at night she didnt wake up when bladder needed emptying and therefore wet herself. after drinking more in the day, it has very quickly reso;lved situation as she can now feel she needs a wee and wake herself up to go.

[didgeridoo]

I wet the bed until age 13! We tried every suggestion, went to Eneurisis clinic but nothing helped. I just had to wait until I grew out of it. I wish large disposables were available in those days as it beats a wet bed & smelly mattress (& therefore bedroom) any day! If that didn't work as an incentive I don't know what would!?

I also found, like Milliways, that I wet the bed less when on holiday or on sleepovers, mainly because I didn't sleep very well for fear of wetting a bed other than my own.

I would just keep reassuring your ds & if he goes on sleepovers, give him advice on using disposables discreetly. It is a very common problem & goes on much longer than people realise.

[Joolyjoolyjoo]

Yup- my dd2 is narly 5 and still in "special pants" at night, despite being dry during the day at 2. her sister was dry at night at 3. I have read a lot about it, and until they start producing ADH in bigger amounts at night, there really is no point in tryig to hurry them out of night nappies.

dd2 is desperate for her special pants to be dry in the morning but I try not to make a big deal of it- she'll do it when her body is ready

[Dancergirl]

My oldest dd was dry in the day at nearly 3 but still in night-time nappies till about 6. She was a heavy sleeper which didn't help. I wouldn't worry about it, he will get there in the end. I can't really remember how it happened with my own dd but she is nearly 9 now and it doesn't matter at all if they're dry at 3 or 7.

[ppeatfruit]

One of the causes is dairy intolerance. it might be worth while trying changing their milk.

[pippin26]

this thread is very interesting and a bit of a relief tbh
My 5.5yr old is still in 'special pants' at night and we have tried every which way to get him dry at nnight.

this has come as a bit of a shock to us as both eldest two boys were dry (nights) by the ages of 3.5 at the lastest.

Youngest Son was day-dry by 2.5yrs but no matter what he just does not wake up for a wee at night.

I haven't been overly bothered by it all and thought that he would do it all in his own time.
I especially find ppeatfruits comment about dairy intolerance as a cause - youngest is lactose intolerant! Is there anywhere I can find a bit more information on this please

[ToccataAndFudge]

9 1/2yr old in this house - although he is a little better now than he was it's still 3 or 4 times a week.