Does anyone else get filled with pain at the thought of their child going through emotional hurt, such as rejection? I just don't know how I'm going to get through the ups and downs of his school life over the next 12 years.. I can't even bear it if some other child refuses to play with him at a park. It's almost like I take everything personally for him and I don't want him to feel any hurt at all - unrealistic, I know.
Ds is turning 5 next week and goes to pre-school, he has always been a fairly happy-go-lucky & outgoing kid who will play with virtually anyone he comes into contact with. He's an only child and while I try to keep him in the company of other children as often as I can, I know he sometimes wishes he had someone at home (i.e. a sibling) to play with all the time. Yesterday we went to a cafe with a playground, and he was eager to find some other kids to play with. He usually finds a playmate easily so I left him to it while I had a coffee. About 5 minutes later I went into the playground looking for him, and he was sitting in the corner alone - tears streaming down his face - while 3 or 4 other kids were playing together. These kids already knew each other and were saying to ds, 'go away, we don't want to play with you.' He was trying to be friendly and normally has no problem approaching other kids, but he looked heartbroken as though he couldn't understand it. I tried to cheer him up by telling him that he's a lovely boy and explained that some kids aren't as friendly as others, and that it's THEIR problem NOT his. I also told him that if someone doesn't want to play with him, just find someone else who does.
Then today he asked me whether his pre-school friends loved him or not. His best friend (a classmate) has just left town for three months and I think ds is really missing him and feeling a bit lost. Whenever I think of him being hurt, I just want to intervene and fix it for him but I know I can't. I get so angry if I see kids being aggressive or unfriendly toward him without reason, and I could easily allow myself to get involved, but for the most part I know I have to let him handle things on his own. It is SO hard Can anyone else relate to feeling like this?
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I can't cope with the idea of ds getting hurt :(
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LJsmum · 13/07/2005 12:10
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