Does anyone else have a DC who winges all the time?

[BobbyTheBird]

And I mean all the time.

Ds(aged 9)gets up in the morning and cries and moans because he doesn't want to go to school. He moans that his feet are hurting, he doesn't like his tea, his sister is annoying him, he doesn't want to do his homework and it goes on and on. I only have to look at him the wrong way and he is in tears! Normal day to day set backs really upset him and he dwells on stuff for days on end.

I know all kids are like this to a certain extent, I have 3 DC, but he literally never stops.

Its wearing me down so much that I have to stop myself from screaming at him to shut up for a minute.

What do I do to get him to stop! Apart from the fact that he drives me crazy he is going to lose friends as he strops and cries if a game isn't going his way.

[NestaFiesta]

My 3 year old has a "whinge" voice and the other day I pretended to sprinkle "magic anti whinge dust" on him. He was so fascinated that he shut up. However, your DS is 9, so it may not work, and secondly, it will only work a few times on my DS before he sees through me.

However, I do sympathise. Your DS is obviously more negative than positive. Maybe you could ask him his favourite bits about the day come the evning and try and concentrate on things he's looking forward to etc.

I heard a quote recently saying that happy people usually have 3 things to look forward to- short term (i.e a nice dinner), medium term (the weekend) and long term (a holiday). Maybe that might help.

I also did an impression of my DS whingeing followed by "normal" talking and asked which he liked best. He didn't realise before then how a whingey tone can make you want to scream and pull your eyeballs out!

I don't know if this helps, but you do have my every sympathy. xxx

[kreecherlivesupstairs]

I am blessed with an 8.8 dd who could whinge for England. I sometimes want to rip my ears off. She is (or at least can be) a delightful little girl, she is kind and caring, possibly a bit too senstitive but bloody blimey can she moan. She is a much wanted and loved only child but some days I'd swap her for a carrier bag. She has a great sense of entitlement and strops when everything she wants doesn't happen. I have tried to impress upon her that other children don't want to hear he moan constantly. She responded that she doesn't moan at school but saves it up for me and her dad. She has improved a bit since last year. I don't know what else to say, except you are not alone.

[twotimes]

Oh I'm so glad somebody else is complaining about this. My ds completely winds me up with his whinging, but what's worse is that he winds up friends and family also. He's 4yrs and already known for his mardiness which is made slightly worse by his rather high pitched voice; which just grates on me! sigh I'm hoping (really hoping) he grows out of it but I don't know how to hurry the process along. Don't get me wrong, I dearly love him and when he isn't moaning he is the most loving child with the brightest smile, but the moaning is intense!