In the last two weeks I've had two instances where mothers of younger children have approached my ds (nearly 5) and told him off, assuming he'd done something wrong, when in fact he hadn't. Considering I was standing right there BOTH times and saw exactly what happened, I'm amazed at how quick they are to have a go at another child - just because that child happens to be older & bigger than their own.
Today we took ds to a festival where there were lots of different children's activities happening. It was crowded (of course) - lots of parents with prams, toddlers, you get the idea. Anyway there was a 'music' section where a number of different types of drums & chimes had been set up, and kids of varying ages were standing around banging on the instruments with little drumsticks. As usually happens, there weren't enough drumsticks to go around, so I told ds to stand and wait until another child had finished having a turn. He happened to be standing next to a toddler who was banging away on a drum, & ds just stood watching him for a minute. The toddler then looked up at ds, smiled at him and handed him the drumstick, so ds took it from him (nicely) and started to bang on the drum. The mother suddenly appeared from nowhere and charged up to ds saying "DID YOU TAKE THAT AWAY FROM HIM???!!!" Before she could grab it out of ds' hand, I told her that her child had actually GIVEN it to ds and that I wouldn't have allowed him to take it away from her child. When she realised I was his mother, she was suddenly nicer and said "Oh, Oh, that's ok then." After a similar thing happened to ds last week, I was just fuming at the fact that half the time, the other mothers haven't even SEEN what actually happened - they just assume that the older/bigger child must've somehow mistreated their precious little toddler. Don't get me wrong, I would've stood up for my son at that age too, but I would want to be 100% sure about what actually happened before I told another child off. Having a young, lively boy myself has made me a lot more understanding and patient when it comes to other children.. and I don't automatically assume that the other child must be in the wrong. I know toddlers need to be protected by their parents but this attitude REALLY gets on my nerves
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Mothers who always assume someone else's child is in the wrong
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Lethal · 12/06/2005 09:09
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