Hello everyone,
We have a seven-month-old baby and two two-year-old whippets. After the birth of our son we introduced the dogs to him gradually and they have always been very gentle and cautious with him. Over the months I have become more relaxed about their contact and allowed them to mix with him quite freely - with hindsight perhaps too freely.
Last Thursday I had the baby on the sofa with me with one of the dogs, who was asleep/resting. The baby was being as wriggly as babies are and somehow kicked or poked the sleeping dog. Dog snapped and bit him on the face. Incredibly luckily the injury was only minor but it could have been so, so much worse.
My first loyalties are with my son and I instinctively first thought that the dogs would have to leave as I could never trust them again. But cutting them out of our lives was an incredibly difficult to decision to make and we have been going round in circles and circles for days.
The dogs went to stay with their breeder for a night to give us some breathing space. We are now faced with a dilemma:
- Allow the dogs to carry on living with us, but with a very different lifestyle. The dogs are now sleeping in an outbuilding with their large crate. After a long morning walk they are happy with this arrangement and come in the house in the evenings and when I can control the situation with the baby. This, combined with possible castration (breeder's advice) to calm them down a bit. Contact with baby would be strictly limited. Dog training sessions to help with behaviour (not that their behaviour was ever awful).
- The breeder is happy to give them a home for as long as it takes to find them a suitable home with new owners.
I am totally torn about what to do. Deep down I know that I feel uneasy about having the dogs back in the house and I keep replaying the horrible event in my mind. I also worry about how I can ever trust them again, even if contact with my son was limited - particularly if we have more children. We live in a small house which makes things more difficult.
However, the thought of saying goodbye to them forever is awful. Was it terrible one-off mistake, or a warning I have to pay attention to for the safety of my child?
Any relevant advice anyone has would be incredibly useful.
Many thanks