My son is 4, and has two friends in his class. One is John and one is Ralph to make it easier to follow.
My son and John were friends, and would often come to play at eachothers houses after preschool. Ralph joined this spring, and he and John took to eachother first, as my son did not want to play with John as he was "a baby". I was trying to encourage all three to play together. Now the three boys are playing fairly well together. Some days one of them is excluded, the next they exclude another one, so it is a little fractious at times.
Johns mum called me last week and told me her son had told them that he and Ralph and come up with a game where they were promising eachother presents if they were not playing with my son. She seemed to be handling this sensibly, called me to let me know, and told me she had spoken to her son about how wrong this is.
Anyhow, Ralph has never been home to our house, and I thought maybe it would make them gel a bit more if I invited him. I spoke to Ralphs mum and we arranged that he should come on monday.
BUT, and here is the big but. When Johns mum has my son over, she always also include Ralph. Her husband is very hands on, they have 5 children, so they are not really worried about managing. I have always told her wow you are brave having so many kids in at the same time.
I dont feel confident to do that, and now I wonder if it is WRONG of me to exclude John?
I dont really want all three at my house because I wanted my son to have a chance to get to know Ralph better, and as there has been problems recently with Ralph and John excluding my son, I thought it migt balance it out a bit.
But now I worry that my son might not be invited to Johns next time......
Gosh, what to do
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QuintessentialShadow · 01/10/2009 08:50
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