My 11 year old dd is lively, popular and chatty, (with her friends and even with other children we meet at the swimming pool or on holiday, etc).
The problem is with adults, even ones she knows well like grandparents, neighbours, my friends etc. They say hello and she just WILL NOT look them in the eye and say hello back. She won't say goodbye either, but if we're spending time with them for example if they're visiting us, she'll have them in the garden playing swingball, showing them things etc which is fine, it just takes her a while to warm up. All these people know what she's like and accept that she doesn't mean to be rude by not returning greetings.
The problem is though, if we meet another mum from the school in town or somewhere, she won't make eye contact or say hello, then we go our separate ways and I'm cringing as I feel it looks so rude! She won't even do it when I prompt her, and I've noticed a few people shake their head or sigh, it's frustrating for them as she does know them!
She did it the other day with a friend of mine, just blatantly ignored her and looked the other way when she was trying to tell my dd about this club she might be interested in. On the way home though, my dd said how good it sounded and can I sign her up, (which I now have done). I told her off for ignoring my friend and she just shrugged, so television was confiscated for that evening.
Any tips on dealing with this? It's different with a 5 year old, (the age her sister is although she's quite different), but just doesn't come over well for an 11 year old!
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My 11 year old is very shy amongst adults and it's coming over as rudeness - help!
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onthepier · 29/09/2009 19:17
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