Ds2 is 8 weeks old, ds1 a very smart 3.10 yr old who is outwardly being a lovely big brother, but doing lots of subtle things to really wind me up - for example, waiting until the moment ds2 wakes and starts crying to ask for a drink / breakfast / a snack, and spending the whole time that I feed ds2 leaning right over me giving him kisses, sticking his face infront of mine if I dare look at ds2 for more than 30 seconds...etc./ etc.
I know it's just his way of dealing with it and making sure he gets his share of the attention, but it's hard not to be constantly saying 'don't do that' and I hate being negative with him. He's also quite aggressive with me if I do ask him to stop doing something or even sometimes if I just ask him a question, shouting and putting his hands over his ears to show he's not listening.
It doesn't help that until I went on maternity leave dh was a SAHD and ds1 really misses him when he's at work. Dh gets a million hugs and kisses before he goes to work and I know ds1 would prefer his dad to be looking after him still, especially as not only does he now have to put up with boring old mum, he also has to share her with a new baby.
Needed to get that off my chest - feels better already. Pre school starts next week which will hopefully help my patience levels, but any suggestions as to how I can make ds1 feel secure enough not to play these games with me? I'm fed up of moaning at him.
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How can I be calmer? New baby and 3.10yr old
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rachels103 · 05/09/2009 14:52
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