DH has categorically said no more babies. Very adament about it. I have accepted what he says and his reasons behind it but not come to terms with it if that makes sense.
I am not trying to change his mind but just wish he could understand how I feel. There are often posts about this on here and I was wondering if anyone else managed to get through to their partners what having another baby / not having another baby really meant to them.
It doesnt help that my DH is possibly a bit Asperger's. He doesnt really understand when other people have emotions he doesnt. I know he doesnt 'get' how I feel and is being very insensitive about the whole matter. For example when I cuddle a friends baby I get a stern 'dont think you are having any more' or when I see a gorgeous baby gro ' you wont be needing that will you'. He is trying to get me to give away all the baby stuff (DD is nearly 1 and I just cant).
He isnt a horrible person - he isnt trying to make me upset and seems confused when I then get upset . He doesnt really get sentimental or emotional about things - which is great in a panic (as he doesnt) but bad when you need understanding. Any ideas how I could get him to understand how much it upsets me? Don't get me wrong - I have two gorgeous children who mean the world to me and I know I am extrmely lucky and that some people feel a lot lot worse than me. He wants a vasectomy which I have talked him out of for now as it would be so final .
Any ideas? And on the topic, how did you come to terms with a definite no? I am only 27 - all my friends are starting to have children and as DH and I are both only children (I am an only child of only children) there are no other babies or possible babies in the family for me to be a fab aunty to. We have no family at all close by and I am only just starting to realise how important they are (after only really having my parents growing up).
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If you are not 'allowed' any more do you think your DH/P knows how you feel?
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peppapighastakenovermylife · 31/08/2009 20:19
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