DS is 3.5, he is gorgeous and strong willed as a lot of toddlers are.
This afternoon I took him swimming. Much excitement, loves going to the pool. All going well. Then absolutely refused to have a shower. Point Blank. Tantrum on the ground, running away from me, shouting, crying because he was cold. I tried different tactics, being nice "Come in so you will be warm" telling him what to do " You need to get in now" and trying to physically grab him and get him in there which is no mean feat as he is strong and slippy. In the end I gave up and he got dressed without one which I guess has taught him a useful lesson that if he has enough of a tantrum then I will give in.
Later on I said I was sad that we wouldn't be able to go swimming again because he needs to have a shower after wards, but he didn't seem to understand. I asked him why he didn't want a shower and he said it was because it was tickly
Normally I try not to sweat the small stuff, but this has left me very frustrated. DS loves going swimming, I love taking him because he enjoys it. But he needs to have a shower afterwards to get the chlorine off. I don't want to have to go swimming then do a bath later on, because part of the benefit of going swimming is not having to do bath time later on. Quite frankly I don't want to take him again because I almost got into shouty mode and I'd rather avoid it.
I know this probably sounds precious and PFBish and people have real problems to worry about. But I'm just thinking there is some way I could handle this better next time and hoping someone might be able to help.
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So how could I have handled this better or differently ?
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rookiemater · 23/08/2009 19:30
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